@Kushppapii I'm going to teach you how to talk to women in a way that works for a mf like you.
This is what you need to do for your own good:
Don't talk to women.
@MightBeKelvin Word salad ya kulisha watu buku tano!
If he isn't rapey, then don't call him a rapist, tf!
If he's a rapist, only thing we should be talking about is whether the axe takes the head off from the back or front...
A simple explanation for this is that women may forgive men who did things that met the legal definition of rape under certain conditions:
1. Stopped action
2. Sincere apology
3. Extenuating circumstance such as extreme inebriation
4. No intent to cause harm
5. Genuine remorse, as indicated by crying or similar
Penetration without consent, especially after being told βnoβ firmly, is not okay and meets the definition of rape.
Unfortunately some men, especially before #metoo created awareness, who meant no harm may have crossed boundaries with rationalizations such as βwe had sex before so she will like it and change her mindβ or βshe is very aroused so she must really want penetrative sex even though sheβs saying βnoβ.β
Cases that involve boundary crossing while βfooling aroundβ are not going to be as traumatic, especially if the action is halted in response to yelling or pushing, as cases that involve deliberate attempt to harm and threats of violence.
We have given all cases the same name, as this is most logical. βNoβ means no, and the moral aim is to ensure bodily autonomy. But there is obviously a spectrum of severity.
Many women furthermore basically internalize coercive male sexual as βboys being boysβ because so many men assert that coercive behavior, such as lying to get sex, is normal. Lying to get sex is morally equivalent and can be in many ways more harmful than physical force, yet men expect women to tolerate this without retaliation.
Consider that a man might forgive a friend who beat him up at some point. But there are varying degrees of physical assault. You might forgive a friend for punching you but not forgive a friend for beating you with a metal baseball bat and putting you in the ER.
The vast majority of men really are not naturally predatory. We have mostly descended from cooperative males who invest highly in offspring.
But sexual double standards create a warped script: women are shamed for wanting sex. Only male desire is embraced so women outsource responsibility for desire onto men.
That produces a perverse dynamic where some women eroticize βnot having to choose,β because owning desire has been made shameful. But the healthier solution is not to romanticize coercion. Itβs to make female sexual agency normal.
Most men not wanting to pretend to rape anyone is good. The fact that this is surprising to people shows how distorted the cultural framing of human sexuality is. Sexual double standards need to go.
People should really introspect more about why they like what they like instead of insisting everything they think they enjoy is good and asking others to accommodate their self destructive perversions.