fear of abandonment and hyper independence are linked. the idea of becoming emotionally attached to someone (bc of the potential pain of them leaving) is so scary, the brain combats this closeness by triggering us to isolate when shown care and refuse help when requiring support
this is why i urge people to read more about somatic therapy. there’s a population of us who are highly self aware, analytical and intellectualize everything as well as our feelings and experiences so we don’t end up feeling anything which makes everything worse.
Didn’t intend to take this photo but thought I’d share it lol. Happy love day, whether it’s self-love, in love with someone or loved by others. This is the thing that keeps us going ♥️🌹