I saw a comedian explain a dysfunctional childhood in the best way.
He said “okay yeah I know I am 37 and I shouldn’t still be upset about what my parents did to me as a kid. But let me ask you a question…
If you were in a building with bad foundation would you feel safer on the 37th floor?!”
I can not tell you how many times my therapist has said to me, “you are having a perfectly normal response to an extremely difficult and stressful situation”. It feels so good to hear that when the world is telling you “you need to ‘handle’ things ‘better’”
Also, you gotta have some empathy for your coworkers in certain workplaces. In retail and service, if you just refuse to do things, it fucks up someone’s day who is just in your shoes with you. My whole motivation at work is never to make it worse for them
This the shit that’s gets me so juiced about this planet but also pisses me off bc there’s a group of shit ass people taking this away from me and future generations for money