When behavior escalates, the instinct is often to increase the consequence.
Sometimes that is necessary. But sometimes the student already knows the rule, understands the expectation, and is too overwhelmed in that moment to access a better response.
That is when the adult matters just as much as the consequence.
A safer adult does not ignore the behavior or remove accountability. They stay regulated enough to hold the boundary without becoming another source of stress. They help the student get back to a place where reflection, repair, and better decision-making are actually possible.
The goal is not fewer expectations.
It is creating the conditions where students can meet them.
@FixingEducation After seeing this Tweet, I found this article online. It was so eye-opening! Now, to work on coping strategies ❤️
https://t.co/kTQHbhkRY9
@CheerFessions1 From my daughter: “it feels heavy today” “just think light, just lift up and try to be as light as possible” , “yk like as you get older you’re not the tiniest flyer anymore and that’s like perfectly okay but people want to stunt with the lighter flyers. Not tryna be rude”
This year, like last year, my Oscars for best actor and actress go to teachers who stayed completely calm in front of their students even though they were breaking down internally. #Oscars#AcademyAwards#BestActor