@flatearthexile I am of the opinion that what BPD patients need is to sort of abandon the self they’ve created as a mirror to others. This reflective self must give way to a self that knows its favourite colour, can eat dinner alone, can explain why a song is their favourite without pantomiming
@flatearthexile It can take YEARS of a patient going one step forward, two steps back to reach a place where they begin to try and amend for their interpersonal sins, because that reflection of being a “bad” partner, friend, or just general person, stings more than any real/perceived abandonment