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[Book Nerds @booknerds010]

So, here are a few things about you:

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[Book Nerds @booknerds010]

no one is going to love you more than yourself

[Raj Shamani @rajshamani]

The most dangerous phase of your career happens right after you achieve basic financial comfort. When you are no longer desperate, your hunger vanishes, and complacency takes over. Most people get trapped in a moderate lifestyle because it is safe enough to stop fighting.

[Dr Mouth Matters @GanKanchi]

Confessions and realities

42M, 55LPA

I am a 42-year-old man with a senior job in IT. I have a house in Chennai, a supportive wife, and two children. On paper, everything about my life looks perfect. I have achieved all the things society says a man should achieve.

In my twenties, life felt different. I had friends to spend time with. We would hang out at Marina Beach and Besant Nagar beach, watch movies at Rohini, Udayam, and Kasi theatres, and ride around Mount Road on my RX100.

In my thirties, I had colleagues to talk with over tea breaks. We would discuss apartments, onsite trips, and share random stories about life and work.

But now, in my forties, life has turned into a quiet routine. My phone rarely rings for anything personal. Most calls are about office work, bank alerts, or someone from home asking me to pick up milk on the way back.

The loneliness of a man in his forties is unusual. I am not physically alone, but I often feel like a machine.

When I enter my home, I am simply “Appa.” I am the person who pays school fees, fixes the Wi-Fi, and handles repairs. My wife is busy with her work and the kids. My children are teenagers now, living in their own worlds and their own rooms. They love me, but they mostly see me as the person who provides comfort and stability. They no longer see me as an individual.

At the office, I am the senior person. I am expected to have all the answers. I cannot tell my team that I feel tired. I cannot tell my boss that I sometimes struggle to keep up with new technologies. I must appear confident and strong, even when I quietly worry about the future.

Sometimes I drive home slowly from work just to spend a few extra minutes in the car. I listen to songs from my college days.
For those fifteen minutes, I am not a manager or a father. I am simply myself again.

I realize that I have not had a real conversation about my feelings with anyone in years.

My old friends now exist mostly as names on WhatsApp. We send “Happy Birthday” or “Congratulations” messages, but rarely talk. When we meet at weddings, our conversations revolve around our children’s grades or the cars we drive. We never talk about what we actually feel.

The hardest part is that I cannot even complain. If I tell my family that I feel lonely, they look confused and say, “But we are all here with you.”
They do not understand that a person can be surrounded by people and still feel like they are on a desert island.

Society teaches men that if they provide money and security, they have succeeded in life.
But no one teaches us how to deal with the silence that comes with it.

I have built a beautiful life for everyone around me, but sometimes it feels like there is no space left for me inside it.

And maybe… this is what life in your forties feels like.

[DAN KOE @thedankoe]

The easiest way to get ahead is to commit to a period of skill development. 6-12 months. Pure focus for 2-4 hours a day. Learning and building. Not just binge watching tutorials, but creating quality projects that you, others, or businesses could actually benefit from. But don't just let those projects sit around. Tell the world about them. See if people care enough to pay you. Fix what doesn't work until they do. That's it. That's what most people need to completely turn their life around.

[DAN KOE @thedankoe]

Grab a notebook.

Write out exactly what you want in your future, don't miss a detail. Then, break it down into goals. Decades, years, months, weeks, and days.

Every day, write down the 3 levers you can pull to make actual progress.

Then, forget about the goals and execute.

[Gaurav Sharma @gsharma010]

"Laziness kills ambition, Jealousy kills peace, Anger Kills wisdom, Fear kills dreams..."

now read that backwards

[Book Nerds @booknerds010]

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5. Elon Musk by Walter Isaacson

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5 Best books you should read in 2024

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4. The Laws of Human Nature by Robert Green

[Dan @danmurrays]

According to Steve Jobs.

This is the 𝗢𝗡𝗘 reason why most people fail.

And how to avoid it:

[Book Nerds @booknerds010]

Gather as much as you can about the early years of the people you are studying and their relationship to their parents and siblings.