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[Haneefah Adam @ms_hanie]

“Oh my God! Your son is so well spoken (because of American accent), what are you doing?.”

We’re doing autism. Do you want a lirru bit of autism?🫠

[Halimah Ahmed (Tiwal'adire) @ahmedhalimah02]

I honestly think this is one of the reasons the Prophet (SAW) encouraged people to marry within compatible social circles.

A man who grew up with maids and helps around the house will genuinely not see anything wrong with getting same or outsourcing for his wife. To him, that's normal.

Likewise, a woman who grew up being cared for will naturally struggle if she gets married only to discover her life became significantly harder than it ever was in her father's house.

At the very least, if marriage cannot make your life better, it really shouldn't make it worse.

Another thing that bothers me is the dishonesty with which many people, especially men, navigate marriage.

You want a woman who 💯 your partner. Fine.

You want her to have a career, make her own money, contribute financially to a responsibility Allah primarily placed on you. Fine.

But how do many of you treat such women?

You abuse the opportunity.

Some of you become comfortable because she can always cover the gaps. Some become lazy and complacent. Some start competing with her the moment she begins to do better. Others become envious and spend more energy trying to cut her down than build her up.

You want her to become a submissive provider.

Help you with your responsibilities while you sit back because, of course, you're the man.

We keep hearing how difficult it has become for men to provide.

Fair enough.

But can we also talk about what pregnancy does to a woman's body?

What childbirth does?

What years of breastfeeding, childcare and carrying the mental load of a home do?

Then on top of all that, she is expected to go out, work, support the family financially, come back home and run the house efficiently.

Most times with very little help.

Then people wonder why women are exhausted and fighting back. Who would not be exhausted from being a submissive wife, a financial partner, a homemaker, a mother, a caregiver, and in many cases, still carry the emotional labour of the marriage? while the supposed head of the family watches because, after all, "he is the man."

Personally, my idea of marriage has always been different.

If today I only have 30 to give, I hope you bring 70.

Tomorrow, if you only have 20, I'll gladly carry the remaining 80.

Not because it's my responsibility.

Not because it's yours.

But because that's what partnership looks like in my own book.

Instead, what we have now is everyone wanting to eat their cake and still have it.

Some women want a man who provides everything while bringing very little of value themselves.

Many men want a woman who brings almost everything to the table while they contribute only what is convenient.

Everybody wants sacrifice.

Very few people actually want to be the one sacrificing.

Selfish lots with different versions of selfishness.

That's what many of you are!

But I don't think we're ready for that conversation yet.

[Ben X @Benn_X1]

This is my greatest fear. I know what I am capable of achieving, and I have seen people around me who are extremely talented, brilliant and had so much potential, yet they did not live up to their expectations.
If only they had taken life a little bit more seriously and were intentional about what they did every day, they’d have had a better life.

I don’t want to look back one day realising I could have been better if only I pushed harder. My philosophy in life is to sieze every moment like it’s the only shot I’ll ever have and make the most of it so that if I ever have to look back, given similar conditions, there should be really nothing within my power I could have done better.

[Olufemi las @Olu_las]

Please share this Quran recitation by our brother. May Allah have mercy on his soul and illuminate his grave. Ameen, ya Rabb. 🤲 🤍

[Madukaife 🪶 @PiousGeek]

I’m here to remind you not to pause the parts of your life that is going well because some parts are not working as expected. Please enjoy the moments that’s working, while working on resolving what is yet ti work well in your favour.

Don’t be perpetually sad and unfortunate!

[Mayowa Sheikhspeare @CoveredInWords]

So the "logical" gender cannot rein their privates, so we resort to directing a one-sided Naseeha to the "emotional" gender?

Noted.

[O.A @snrmanOA]

Don’t know why you guys don’t like doing nice things for your friends and families.

[Danjuma Aliagan, PhD @Danaliagan]

If MEN who indulge in Zina or Pornography lowered their gaze, exercised restraint and stopped pursuing unlawful relationships, many more WOMEN would be married.

Free access to illegal sex is not a women-only issue. It takes two to tango. Yet somehow, the burden of preserving chastity is always placed almost entirely on the sisters. Are brothers rabid dogs who when it gets to the issue of sex have no control or autonomy over their desires?

Dear brother in Islam, be too chaste to cheapen yourself, too God-fearing to consume women as though they exist merely to satisfy your desires.

The command to guard one’s chastity was revealed FIRST to men, THEN women.

Hold yourself to the same standard you demand of others.

Let’s always endeavor to make a balanced naseeha. Awon Obinrin ma wa daran o

[Hauwa 🌟🌬 @Hauwa_L]

Please be picky. Be picky o. Don’t let them tell you your own is too much.

[Rihanot Ojo-Oba @RihanotOjoOba]

Rate of abuse no dey fear una, na always divorce.

[Luna M ✨ @tiredfeminist_]

We are not your mothers🙏🏾

[TSPEAKS @fancy_temi]

My mum. She’s never insulted me in her life before.

If I broke the plate, she goes “who’s the blessed child that broke this plate?”

Never ever said one bad word to her kids.

[Neto @docneto]

Many don't like to hear this but likeability is a valueable trait that you can and should cultivate. Dress well, be well groomed, smell good, smile, be friendly, be optimistic, show love and respect, be interested in people, do unrequited things for them then watch life blossom.

[‏ً @itsnwts]

“He has childhood trauma.” So do I.
“He’s under a lot of pressure at work.” So am I.
“He’s just overwhelmed.” Me too.
The only difference is that we excuse men’s behavior, and shame women for not carrying it.

[AYESHA @syedayeshaaaa]

Was reading Surah An'am and there's a verse that translates to "your Lord has made it obligatory on himself to be merciful to you" and I put my Quran down and took a deep sigh. A higher being who has nothing to gain from me has made it compulsory on HIMSELF to be merciful to me?

[above the noise ⛰️📚 @bui1tfromash]

Do not talk about discernment if you cannot recognise when someone needs compassion more than criticism and correction. There is a time to guide and a time to simply hold space for a person who is hurting. Wisdom knows the difference. And kindness knows it even faster.

[Ummu Chop Life @rafiiiiiiiiy]

Now that my mutuals are back,

Eni olohun bun ni data ko bawa rt
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Kindly retweet for new owners to find these beauties

[No filter Skin @NoFilterSkin]

your abusive father controlled his temper around coworkers, neighbors, friends, church members, cashiers, & strangers.

then he brought the rage home to people with less power to leave.

that was a choice he kept making.

[Hauwa 🌟🌬 @Hauwa_L]

Please whatever you do, do not - as an adult - allow your survival and livelihood be dependent on someone’s mood. Get your money. It doesn’t matter how little it is. Get your money and stay content.

[Dee_Dee❤️ @hant_qudeee]

Asalamun alaykum y’all,i’m here again on behalf of one of our sister who urgently needs surgery for severe fibroids. The total cost is 1.7M and her family has sacrificed everything they can and alhamdulillah they have 1M already and we are left with 700k

The doctors have warned