You don’t need to be cold. Just inaccessible. Respond slower. Reveal less. Be polite, but unreadable. When people have to guess how you feel, they start treating you like someone they can’t afford to miscalculate. That’s how distance breeds influence.
The key to living a comfortable life is confrontation and chaos actually. You have to say no. You have to tell people to fck off. You have to be mean in necessary situations.
I believe in re-reading and re-watching your favourite books and movies at different stages of your life. the plot never changes, but your perspective does.
you must believe you are special and then go so hard, for so long, with such violent refusal to accept any other ending, that reality itself starts running out of ways to tell you no. you must wage a war daily against the ordinary outcome, until the belief you invented out of nothing in a room by yourself has been hammered into the world so many times that it stops being a claim and becomes reality.
Don't let your empathy be greater than your self respect. Be kind, but never at the cost of your dignity. You can care deeply for others and still choose yourself, your peace, and your boundaries first.
my momma always told me a real woman stands on everything she says or does. right, wrong, or indifferent. one of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever gotten.
Don’t ever be embarrassed about your life. We all go through things that shake us, humble us, or force us to start over. Moving back home, losing your job, getting your heart broken, going through a divorce, hitting a low mentally… it’s all a part of being human.
Remember this: even if you go for it and it doesn't work out, you still win. you had the guts to head into the unknown and try something that scared you. this type of bravery takes you places.