The most destructive piece of internet lore ever created is the phrase: "If they wanted to, they would."
It sounds empowering, but it is actually deeply narcissistic. It assumes that a person’s actions are dictated 100% by their desire for you, while completely ignoring their capacity.
A partner can desperately want to give you the world, but if they are fighting a silent financial war, battling burnout, or dealing with a health crisis, their capacity is at zero. Measuring a stressed partner's love strictly by their ability to "perform" is a lethal mistake. "If they wanted to, they would" is the fastest way to lose a fiercely loyal partner over a temporary lack of bandwidth.
Americans, after discovering we will never receive our DOGE checks and that all $175 billion in tariff revenue is being sent back to the companies, even though all of their prices had already been raised to account for it.
Americans were forced to pay $175 billion in illegal Trump tariffs and now the refunds are going to corporations instead of back to the people who got robbed.