and yes, sometimes they do come back.
but you need to stop chasing the outcome.
because the more you chase someone who has walked away, the less room there is for them to make that decision themselves.
give it space.
you don’t know how your story ends yet.
you might never hear from your ex again.
read that again.
the person you shared your bed with, your secrets, your plans and your future with…
might never send you another message.
and i know that thought is absolutely terrifying.
but here’s something you need to understand.
a breakup doesn’t erase years of memories, emotional attachment or everything two people shared.
sometimes people need to lose the daily contact, the familiarity and the constant presence of someone before they can properly reflect on what that person meant to them.
Love has a cost
To love means to be there when things aren’t easy
To do not what you want but what we want
To compromise
To learn
To listen
To strive to be better for us
No more me me me
But
Us
Us
Us
Love costs you you
To become
WE
Selfless Love ❤️🩹
Don’t let someone who decided to leave
Live rent free in your life
Whatever happened happened
You can’t go back
Living the same memories repeatedly
Keeps you stuck in the past
So how can you possibly move on?
you’ll learn that loving someone doesn’t mean you can make them stay.
and that sometimes, the people who hurt us the most end up teaching us the most about ourselves.
don’t waste that pain.
let it change you, but don’t let it make you bitter.
let it make you better.
the pain you feel after losing someone who chose to leave your life…
as difficult as it is, this is also where some of your greatest lessons will come from.
you’ll learn things about love, attachment, yourself and what it means to let go of someone you never wanted to lose.
this gives them space to reflect on the relationship without feeling pressured to defend their decision.
and sometimes, that’s when they start missing what they had.
because you can’t miss someone’s presence when they’re always there.
no contact and how it affects the dumper…
when you constantly reach out, they never really get to experience your absence.
but when you stop, the dynamic changes.
there’s no more attention, reassurance or constant reminders that you’re still available.