not real 707

[enemy to artistry itself @bpdasa]

as a woman who dated a guy with a lower libido than me and often times he would want to just go to bed and not have sex. i never felt this way at all. i loved him and respected his boundaries. i think you guys are just rapists

[Echo 🔆 @TheEcho13]

“Withholding sex” is one of the most revealing phrases men use, because it assumes sex was already his and she’s refusing to release it.

Watch what usually comes before it. He did the dishes. He paid a bill. He quoted religion. He acted sad. He found a dozen ways to frame her body as the reward for his effort.

But the question is simple. Did she want him in that moment?

If the answer is no, she wasn’t withholding. She didn’t have desire to give. She was angry, hurt, exhausted, disconnected, repulsed, unseen. And women have been so trained to believe refusal is cruelty that they’ll force themselves through sex they don’t want just to avoid being called abusive.

That is the sickness underneath the whole argument.

Men call it “withholding” because “she doesn’t want me” requires self-reflection.

“Withholding” lets him stay entitled.

[Courtney | a prime example of social decay @televisualities]

One thing you see men do a lot is say that only a very small fraction of men - they like to use 1% - of men are rapists or sexual offenders. But then a shocking amount of them will describe rape, just without using the word.

The 'expectation' of sex on tap, forever.

[Valia🍉 @livetime_fe]

Nick if your girl wants to give it to you in the bum with a strap on for 5-10 minutes a couple times a week I really think you should let her. It's not torture, she really wants to.

[alexis @imheretolurk13]

I could not imagine having sex with someone who I know does not want to have sex with me.

Not just for moral reasons, but because it sounds completely unarousing.

Male sexuality is not only morally reprehensible, but also just plain bizarre.

[noema 🍯🐝 @VampireNoema]

She used real life working ballerinas and they all talked about how important this was but here you are wanting them out of a job. Ok timothy chalamet

[mom @Gina_Lavetti]

all of this discourse is really opening my eyes to how many men are rapists and feel nothing about it because their wives didn’t scream “no” as it happened

[Molly🎧🏳️‍🌈 @RasberryRazz]

I had to tell one of my male classmates that blue balls was not a good reason for forcing a girl to sleep with you and he ended up crying cause he realized the rape accusation he had in college had validity cause he would use the blue balls excuse to guilt trip girls.

[NRB @vivrantny]

My needs are already fully met as a single person actually so a relationship is either going to add to more life or I’m not getting in one at all and I think that’s what y’all don’t comprehend

[girlsay. @_GirlSay]

by that logic, men don't contribute anything to society since they can't give birth

[Kate 🐿️ @squirrelmusing]

“Would it seriously kill you to be used as a fleshlıght 2-3x a week with no regard for your own desire or autonomy as a person? I want that and it makes me sad I can’t have that. Oh, you want to be loved and desired as a whole person? Nah that’s too much work.”

[The Road Jess Travelled @JessPected]

Men intentionally make sex as miserable as possible, a chore women come to see as repulsive, not an act of mutual pleasure & loving intimacy, then complain that their wives lose sexual desire for them & eventually, love as well. Then the "divorce came out of nowhere."

[A Lizard Lady @LexiconLass]

As it happens, my sex ed teacher DID talk about blue balls. Made sure to tell us that it's not as big a deal as men say it is and not to let them talk us into things we didn't want to do because of it :)

[isha @MibshaD]

When I got pregnant at 17 my ultra right-wing, conservative, catholic parents told me to get an abortion and we’d never talk about it again.

That’s why I know they’re all full of shit.

[girlsay. @_GirlSay]

this was my default mindset but everyone I dated had a issue with it

[bunnie @CuriousBunnie12]

there is an entire industry built on “blue balling”. you’re not supposed to jerk it at strip clubs. there’s an entire restaurant niche featuring waitresses in sexy costumes. why are there legitimate posts acting like blue balls is a leading cause of death for men.

[duda🐟Ψ @notsabidinha]

vou me jogar

[♱⃓ rose of sharon ( ၴႅၴၴႅၴၴႅၴၴၴ @bellaraices]

it’s pretty clear that the average man really isn’t all that opposed to rape under the condition that it isn’t overtly violent and the word rape isn’t used

far too many women and girls have been coerced into sex by their partners for this to not be the case

[lu @hilosfemi2]

sex is used as an insult for women “i fucked your mom” “suck my dick” “your mom is whore”,women that have sex are “sluts” while men arent, people refer to sex as “cracked” “used” “smashed” “destroy her holes” and still have the audacy to talk about sex as “intimacy and love”

[maddy catgirlprostate @catgirlprostate]

Not to get too Reddit atheist but it always annoys me a little bit when someone experiences a moment of genuine human connection and solidarity for no personal gain, and then they thank god rather than the kind stranger who helped them