Colten Slade Farnsley

Es/pres/so
Husband | Christian | Father
Random thoughts/pictures from a day in the life

[Tanya @tanyaelisabethh]

Marriage used to be the starting point.

Two people would come together with almost nothing to their name, but each other, and then they would build everything side by side. This process of building led to bonding, it built loyalty, it required tremendous sacrifice and most of all it taught interdependence. But now we are told the opposite. We are told instead that we need to have it all before we marry.

We need a good career, a home, a bunch of money in the bank, your entire identity discovered and solidified, a passport filled with stamps, a degree and much dating experience.

The problem with this is that by the time two people finally decide to join one another, well they have spent most of their lives learning how to do life alone.

So it is not wonder then that building a life with someone else, suddenly feels so much harder. Marriage used to be a beginning, not it is an after thought to an already built life.

Two already self-sufficient and self-reliant people do not easily merge and mesh. It is hard to go from the perspective of “mine”, to “ours”, when individualism is all we have ever known.

And this is why individualism has become the death of marriage.

[Colten Slade Farnsley @cfarnsley96]

@WholesomeMeme Always.

[Colten Slade Farnsley @cfarnsley96]

@paulg But also, Character > Competency.

[Colten Slade Farnsley @cfarnsley96]

@randallmbriggs I would like to report the imaging at 1:05 as inaccurate.

[Josh Greaves @joshgreaves_ml]

Quick reminder: this was the state of robotics just 11 years ago

[Colten Slade Farnsley @cfarnsley96]

@mattvanswol Homeschool your kids!

[Matt Walsh @MattWalshBlog]

“I don’t know what else you could have done”

That’s how this crazy wench describes the murder of three children. She doesn’t know what else Clancy could have done but strangle her kids to death.

These women are demons. Beasts from the pit of hell. My God.

[Nick Freitas @NickJFreitas]

Truth.

[Colten Slade Farnsley @cfarnsley96]

@MattWalshBlog Here’s my favorite. Super controversial tho.

[Skscartoon @skscartoon]

An 1889 political cartoon against electricity. Replace the power lines with data centers, and you get exactly what’s going on today.

[Allie Beth Stuckey @conservmillen]

Something I did not realize at first: Lindsay Clancy was never diagnosed with postpartum depression or psychosis. These diagnoses have only been applied to her during this trial.

[Elon Musk @elonmusk]

Failing to pass SAVE is an act of high treason against the people of America

[Nick Freitas @NickJFreitas]

“What radicalized you?”

Nothing…They’re the radical ones.

I’m just a normal guy fighting against left wing insanity and degeneracy.

[Matt Walsh @MattWalshBlog]

I’ve let my kids stay up late the last two nights so we could play board games. On Saturday we played Scrabble until it was an hour past their bedtime and then I decided that we’d have ice cream and watch TV for a while. They were thrilled. This time I spent with my kids wasn’t a “sacrifice” or a burden I heroically shouldered for their sake. I like hanging out with them. They’re smart and funny and fun to be around. Sure they can be annoying sometimes, but anyone can be annoying. I’ve annoyed countless people in my day. Including my kids.

If you hate being a parent and actively resent your children, it’s either because you categorically refuse to get out of your own head and put in the minimal effort it requires to develop a real relationship with them, or it’s because you’ve done a really crappy job raising them so now they’re hard to be around. Either way, it’s a you problem. It’s your fault. Not theirs. It’s your responsibility, then, to pretend you don’t hate it.

Yes, pretend. Yes, suppress your true feelings. Yes, put on an act. Maintain the facade for your kids, because it’s deeply scarring and unfair to saddle them with your personal issues. And maintain the facade for the public, because frankly we don’t want to have to deal with your narcissistic nonsense either. Your “true self” is unsightly and off putting, and you shouldn’t force anyone to bear witness to it.

So fake it til you make it. Act like the kind of parent you should be, until you actually become that parent. Shoulder the burden of your own narcissism silently and with dignity. If you do that, after a while, and by definition, you will no longer be a narcissist. One day you’ll look up and realize that you’re actually not faking it anymore. You really do enjoy giving your time and yourself to those you love.

At least that’s how it often works. I don’t know if it will for you or not. But either way, whatever you do, don’t take your failures out on your children.

[Joshua Haymes @haymes_joshua]

I’m a Christian supremacist.

A people that worships Christ will produce superior culture (Order. Beauty).

A people that worships demons & false gods will produce inferior culture (Ugliness.chaos).

[Colten Slade Farnsley @cfarnsley96]

What’s up with Kalshi all of a sudden requiring precise location?

[William Wolfe 🇺🇸 @WilliamWolfe]

From over three years ago. Yes, James
Lindsay and others used the “So you want the One Ring?!” attack against me when I said this.

But it was true then and it’s still true now.

[Laurence Fox @LozzaFox]

Disciples of death.

[Jay Dyer @JayDyer]

UK has fallen to Pirates of The Caribbean villains!

[Colten Slade Farnsley @cfarnsley96]

@choeshow Me when I see the housing market: