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12) We all want the same thing
We have to work together to help the children best. Both school and home need to listen, compromise and try to help where they can. Remember the child is what’s important, how can we improve things for them.
11) Tell us things!
If they are upset about something, it helps to know. If a sibling has gone to hospital, if a pet is ill, if they’ve had a bad night’s sleep, if you are separating. All of these are important for how we can help them during the day.
10) Don’t moan in front of the children
We all moan about our kids school, I certainly do at times. But try not to let the children hear. They listen to everything and it shapes their view of things when they don’t always understand exactly what’s going on.
9) Ask how you can help
If you want some specifics, be specific. Ask about a particular subject. How can I help with their adding up? Asking how you can help in Maths is a big subject area! Ask for small steps - you’ll see more impact too.
8) We have 30 to look after
Your child is your world, of course. School and home want the same thing - the best for a child, but we come at it from a different POV sometimes. There needs to an understanding from both about these different points of view.
7) Raise a concern early
Don’t let it fester and become a big issue. A 5 minute chat at the start can save a lot of time and worry later. Make an appointment and find out more and try and make some headway when it first starts.
6) Use the information that’s there
Most schools have calculation policies, tips on listening to children read, websites to go to. Use them. Look on their website and read them. Go to info evenings when you can. If you can’t attend, ask for slides.
5) Get both sides of a story
If your child has come home upset, of course you want to know why. Ask the school for their view rather than insist they are wrong immediately. Children don’t always tell it exactly how it was, ask the school for more information about what happened.
4) If homework is a absolute battle stop.
It doesn’t help anyone to have a screaming session re homework. If they are getting really upset, stop and go and talk to their teacher about it. It can hard enough fitting it in without tears (from both parties sometimes) as well.
3) Don’t push it if they won’t tell you.
Feed them before you ask them. If you don’t tell you, wait a while and try a different question later. The might need some downtime before they talk to you about their day.
2) Try to find out about their day.
You’ll be met with the inevitable ‘nothing’. Ask questions around it. What sound did you do in phonics? Who did you play with? What was tricky today? What made you smile? What made you laugh? What were you proud of today?
1) Listen to them read.
This is so important. Even if it’s just for a little bit. Even if it’s the same reading book as they’ve already had. Even you you read some and they read some.
It’s so vital. Every little bit helps. Share books together, make it enjoyable. Model reading.