To be clear, what Lyndsey described is physical abuse. Just because the New York Times didn't label it that, doesn't mean it isn't. To downplay it is to endanger millions of women who are experiencing something similar.
@emzanotti@LeahLibresco Annnnd I’m making this tomorrow night! I’ve made a similar variation which was a crowd pleaser so I’m sure this will be a smash!
@allie__voss Trump literally has run this entire term based on this premise. Nothing is done for the good of Americans, everything is about power and influence, favors for friends and lining his own pockets. It’s so deeply corrupt.
@united@whereisyaffe Mom of a toddler here chiming in to say how utterly unacceptable this is and how I’ll be avoiding ever booking United in the future.
This is unhinged. If a family member behaved this way, you'd worry about them. If a CEO behaved like this, the board would meet. He's living in an alternate reality and furious when a person won't indulge his fantasies.
One of many things that Blue MAGA has in common with Red MAGA: they positively revel in finding the very worst people that they can find as a giant fuck you against "the establishment" -- and against every standard and norm of of good human beings. They're nihilists.
I’m very open to people weighing the possible motivations and actual evidence of any charge (even when it's a friend). I know people don't have the benefit of knowing Lyndsey and having heard about Graham for years from her, as I did.
A problem during the #metoo era was no one seemed to be using any kind of standard of evaluation that was consistent, which seems important in media. I created one for myself: When I was asked to opine in public on various allegations and wanted to do so responsibly, I had a rubric for considering credibility on a spectrum (and also tried not to be rude and dismissive out the gate of almost anything, with Swetnick testing that with sheer audacity).
— a named accuser
— evidence the two people knew each other and had been in the same place at the same time at the time of alleged event
— contemporaneous reports, though not necessarily to police. Diary entries, conversations with friends, etc.
— a demonstrated M.O. from the accused
Christine Blasey Ford’s account had 1 of these (named accuser). By contrast, accusations against Roy Moore had all four. Lyndsey’s has three (and the second named source's story of him showing up at her house drunk and acting such that she cut off contact with him suggests there is a drunken, boundary-crossing, scary M.O.)
By merely marshaling evidence the two were often in the same place at the same time during the acknowledged past relationship, Fifield has surpassed Ford's account's documentation. The NYT verified old diary entries, and her texts confirmed many of her thoughts on him predated him running for office. She was forthright that she hid his worst behavior, as many women in abusive relationships do, and very specific in her characterization of his physical behavior (one suspects if it were a made-up partisan hit, she might not caveat his physical abuse so much and would have dropped this in September, but I digress). It is both scary and embarrassing to admit the truth in those situations.
This is all separate from what voters might find acceptable, but the account Lyndsey gives is one that, if I knew it in real time, I'd actively help the friend get out of the relationship and advise her to stay out of it. I've done this with other friends and wish I'd been able to be there for Lyndsey at the time. It shouldn't be dismissed out of hand, especially given it hits far more marks than other allegations treated with utmost seriousness in the press. The idea that this is either all merely normie, drunk, working-class behavior or "Dem HR lady politics" to find it problematic doesn't fly. So many people spent two decades saying every dude right of a Wellesley gender politics professor was a toxic white supremacist but now think you're just a big pussy if you'd object to being locked in a bedroom by a big drunk guy with a Nazi tattoo.
Umm… check the date on that one buddy. There’s a reason you had to go back to literally the week of the pogrom to find this. In the years since I have personally gave money to help innocents in Gaza as I, like many, believe Israel took things too far. But if you’re not horrified by 10/7 and don’t believe Israel had every right to respond, then yes you and I are very different.
@baseballcrank@EWErickson There’s an added irony/lack of awareness to Tracey’s command here and that little tidbit of a hypothetical home invasion but I’m too much of a lady to type it.
@januarijonez@esanzi I’m not saying my experience is therefore true of Platner. I’m saying that the idea that this kind of personality type can be dismissed as benign and harmless is absurd.
It's not just the evidence of assault.
It's not just the Nazi tattoo
It's not just lying about the Nazi tattoo
It's not just the Kik account
It's not just the adulterous sexting
It's not just the deranged posting
It's all of it (and the more that may emerge).
This is the guy you want to burn your moral credibility for to beat ... Susan Collins?
Ok I’ve just read the Platner story. It is built entirely on the claims of a Heritage staffer whose accusations lack even one shred of contemporaneous corroborating evidence. Two other women Platner dated felt dissed, but that’s all.
The NYT is running oppo for Collins.
The allegations against Platner are better corroborated than the allegations against Brett Kavanaugh were and it will be interesting to see who manages to be consistent in their beliefs about such things.