Prachi Das #Relationships

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[Prachi Das #Relationships @CoachPrachiDas]

Things we leave unspoken come back to bite us in our marriage

One such thing is unspoken expectations

Here's the solution 👇🏻
Part 1 of the video (part 2 is in the comments)

[Prachi Das #Relationships @CoachPrachiDas]

Marriage brings into your perspective the other qualities

And living with someone actually creates a hyper focus on their bad qualities

And then people just assume that just because we're married, we're entitled to you behaving how I want you to behave

And your partner...

[Prachi Das #Relationships @CoachPrachiDas]

@IanMoon338 @StrongMarriage5 Your resentment is coming from the belief that you're not getting what you want from the relationship and she's feeling the same way. So shift your focus to giving instead of getting and you'll find the "love" is back!
Obviously you both have to be willing to do that.

[Trey & Lea's Stronger Marriages @StrongMarriage5]

"My wife & I just don't have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I just don't love her anymore and she doesn't love me. What do I do?"

"The feeling isn't there anymore?"

"That's right," he reaffirmed. "And we have 3 children we're really concerned about. What do you suggest?"

"Love her," I replied.

"I told you, the feeling just isn't there anymore."

"Then love her."

"You don't understand. The feeling of love just isn't there."

"Then love her. If the feeling isn't there, that's a great reason to love her."

"But how do you love when you don't love?"

"My friend, love is a verb. Love - the feeling - is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Serve her. Sacrifice for her. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?"

-Stephen Covey

[Building Great Marriages @dovidfeldman]

Learn how to make space for your spouse's emotional flux.

Tell yourself: "This behavior isn't really them. They had a bad day/grumpy/upset about something."

Learn to ask "Is there something wrong?" rather than respond with defensiveness. 🙏💚

[Trey & Lea's Stronger Marriages @StrongMarriage5]

5 Mistakes Couples Make BEFORE Marriage:

1. Not discussing expectations before marriage (want kids? work? religion? money? chores? etc).

2. Living together "to try it out" before marriage (divorce rates are actually higher for couples who co-habitate before marriage).

3. Preparing more for the wedding than the upcoming marriage (educate yourself about marriage before marriage).

4. Expecting to have a problem free marriage or great marriage without any effort.

5. Believing you'll change your partner's flaws after you marry them.

[Building Great Marriages @dovidfeldman]

Well said. My Rabbi sat me down and asked me,

Dovid, what's 1+1? And of course, I said, "Two."

He replied, "Not in marriage. In marriage, 1+1 = 1"

Great advice.

[Building Great Marriages @dovidfeldman]

Ok, so women don't need men, and men don't need women.

Is that a reason not to get married? Because in the past you couldn't do it on your own, and now you can?

Just shows you have no clue what marriage is about in the first place. 🤷

[Prachi Das #Relationships @CoachPrachiDas]

@usuallypregnant @RationalMale Why does it have to be either or?
We can consciously choose to create a relationship that serves the interest of both partners. True love is liberation, pitting one against the other is not empowerment of the winner.

[Barefoot Pregnant @usuallypregnant]

The sexual revolution destroyed women's bargaining power and men have been the primary beneficiaries ever since.

Before the 1960s, if a man wanted physical intimacy, the price was commitment. Marriage. A ring. A promise before God and family.

The sexual revolution removed that requirement entirely. Women were told that casual sex was empowering. That waiting was old-fashioned.

But men and women are not the same. Men can walk away from casual hookups. Women are left with emotional attachment and potential pregnancy in a dating market where commitment is no longer expected.

The cruel irony is that the movement marketed as women's liberation primarily served men's interests. Men got access without commitment. Women got freedom without security.

Look around at the results: record-low marriage rates, record-high antidepressant prescriptions among young women, and a generation of men who see no reason to grow up.

Who was really liberated here?

[Building Great Marriages @dovidfeldman]

If you're married, it's not that difficult:

No good friendships with co-workers, gym-trainers, therapists, coaches, Facebook friends, etc, of the opposite sex.

I can't tell you how many solid relationships are ruined because people abuse this basic boundary. 🤷

[Prachi Das #Relationships @CoachPrachiDas]

@dr_sivaranjani @sumit_Dharniya @fssaiindia @fssaiindia Indians want #foplwarnings
Make India healthy again!

[Trey & Lea's Stronger Marriages @StrongMarriage5]

The WORLD says: Marry the person you love.
The BIBLE says: Love the person you marry.

The WORLD says: Love is a feeling.
The BIBLE says: Love is a choice.

The WORLD says: Find the right person and you’ll be happy.
The BIBLE says: Choose the person who leads you closer to Christ.

The WORLD says: Follow your heart.
The BIBLE says: Guard your heart and be faithful.

The WORLD says: When it gets hard, leave.
The BIBLE says: When it gets hard, lean on Me.

The WORLD says: Bachelor life is fun.
The BIBLE says: He who finds a wife finds a good thing.

The WORLD says: Your work is the most important achievement.
The BIBLE says: Nothing is more important than your family and Christ.

The WORLD says: Marriage isn't supposed to be hard.
The BIBLE says: Iron sharpens iron.

The WORLD says: There's a million women to choose from.
The BIBLE says: a virtuous woman is worth far more than rubies.

[Prachi Das #Relationships @CoachPrachiDas]

@LXDPolymath Thanks! Couples experience contempt because of unspoken expectations, they feel they're better than their spouse and hence have the right to insult them or treat them poorly. Contempt is the most prevalent reason for failed marriages - both dysfunctional marriage and divorce.

[Prachi Das #Relationships @CoachPrachiDas]

Things we leave unspoken come back to bite us in our marriage

One such thing is unspoken expectations

Here's the solution 👇🏻
Part 1 of the video (part 2 is in the comments)

[Prachi Das #Relationships @CoachPrachiDas]

Marriage brings into your perspective the other qualities

And living with someone actually creates a hyper focus on their bad qualities

And then people just assume that just because we're married, we're entitled to you behaving how I want you to behave

And your partner...

[Prachi Das #Relationships @CoachPrachiDas]

@JkJerry 😄😄😄

[Prachi Das #Relationships @CoachPrachiDas]

@JkJerry Is it minus the violence and gore?
Haven't watched the original yet, Roblox version seems more my vibe 😄

[Prachi Das #Relationships @CoachPrachiDas]

@Padmaja_Yatra Awww 😍🥹 hearty congratulations 🤗

[Trey & Lea's Stronger Marriages @StrongMarriage5]

Never excuse your constant unkind tone or
your short temper as ...

"Well, that's just who l am. You're going to have to learn to live with it."

That kind of attitude will kill your relationships.

Go to work and FIX those things. They are generational curses.

Work hard to lengthen your fuse and speak with a kind tone.

It will bless your relationships.

[Trey & Lea's Stronger Marriages @StrongMarriage5]

10 RULES FOR ARGUING WITH YOUR SPOUSE ...

1. Respect your spouse. No personal attacks.
2. Never threaten divorce. NEVER!
3. Don't bring up your spouse's past mistakes.
Forgive & move on.
4. Listen to understand, not just to respond.
5. Don't lose your temper. It never makes it better only worse.
6. You are on the same team ... so don't try and "win" the argument.
7. Watch your tone and your body language.
8. Take a break if needed and pick it back up later.
9. Never yell, scream or call names.
10. Always reconnect after the argument.

[Prachi Das #Relationships @CoachPrachiDas]

@ishafoundation Enrolled 😍🙌🏽🙇🏽‍♀️🙏🏽

[Nate Postlethwait @nate_postlethwt]

If you are a survivor of sexual abuse (or care about someone who is), these gentle reminders are for you:

[Prachi Das #Relationships @CoachPrachiDas]

@foodpharmer2 "Indians don't mind celebs earning crores from promoting junk food and paan masala" so true and so sad. We raise questions only on the character of good people, spiritual people, people doing good for the environment, for the country, and actual law abiding, tax paying citizens.