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woman who is discovering how life is not what I have been taught. NL, FR and ENG.

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@flyme2themoon8 Zo vond ik zelf het boek 'unconditional parenting' een eye opener. Dit legt mooi uit kinderen zich voorwaardelijk geliefd voelen door straffen en belonen. (ze houden alleen van me als ik.....). Het verschil tussen oordeel over gedrag en persoon is cruciaal.

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@flyme2themoon8 Ik ken natuurlijk niets van jullie situatie en heb toch een tip: je kan je als ouder verdiepen in de psychologie van kinderen. Zodat je zelf wat meer handvaten hebt. Het komt over dat hij moeite heeft zijn emoties te reguleren. Dat is iets waar je, denk ik, nog wel iets mee kan

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@CovenantofUs @kierstonator @hell_line0 For the man, it creates attachment. For the women it is the result of attachment. Men and women are different. You cannot solve this issue only looking it from one point of view.

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@thegenesisbl0ck In addition: to me that was part of my role as SAHM… I needed to understand what I was doing and why. If I want my child to develop as best as possible and make good choices, I needed to understand my child and how brains develop (emotions and knowledge).

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@thegenesisbl0ck My solution: develop my knowledge about child development and neurological changes, emotional development etc. People do studies on the whole child psychology. It is quite fascinating really. So much we never are taught. And it is also personal development in many ways.

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@MrsCMFrancis Sure and I assume you don’t want to change your thoughts and convictions about that… since I assume the consequence is that you’d never want a dog in your home, even if someone else in your family would want one..

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@MrsCMFrancis It is just a question of perception and conviction. That’s it… some people find it disgusting, other think it helps the immune system to develop better. Some people don’t love dogs, others adore them. Some people see animals, some see personalities in them…just perceptions..

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@Hipsy_afya Is how I used to think, so I understand her. Now I also understand why I used to think that and what influenced me. She might change her thoughts or regret her decision.

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@Cecilia70048892 @Noreptotho @megha_lilly I agree…and society is the people. Not governments, who prefer women as economic goods that bring in tax money. We are influenced in how we perceive children and their/our needs. And governments influence that perception by the choices they make. We live the consequences..

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@PaulWillia80450 @Grundlebottom @grok @woozel7 @ReturnOfKappy Can we find the result of this marketing stunt? I mean with the marketing for which show it was. Or was this video the only marketing stunt?

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@grok @woozel7 @ReturnOfKappy Who was the person jumping? Which actor? Was he ever interviewed?

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@SoulContainer45 @ReturnOfKappy Where is the interview with that person?

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@Cecilia70048892 @Noreptotho @megha_lilly That is exactly the issue, we have created a society that pushes mothers to drop their kids off somewhere with strangers, without their consent.

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@andy_scott7886 @megha_lilly There is a lot of evidence behind this. A lot of adults don’t remember how it was for them and don’t know how it negatively affected them. Always different looking with the adult brain.

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@bean0509 @felicityb5 @megha_lilly Some people believe government is better to educate children then parents and want children away from their parents as soon as possible.

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@KimCheatlesWart @flabbytofit99 @GrowlyGrr You really think a 9 year old just manipulates using the adult logic? It is the adult perception of reasoning that says 'he manipulates', not the child. Children just live their feelings and emotions and need guidance to grow into adults that have control over them.

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@Boenau It is cultural here. Thinking it only is a matter of roads, is not taking into account that it is an attitude and habit of people.

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@dsware123 This teaches the kid her mom is a violent person who is willing to hurt her if she doesn't do as asked. What kind of adult will she turn into? What will she accept from her future husband? Spanking is inability of finding other non violent solutions.

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@megha_lilly I might call this child abuse. I assume you don't want the child to feel loved unconditionally..I'd suggest you research the impact of ignoring a (very) young child. You are looking at it with your adult brain. Let me say: no, it is not the 'only' thing that works.

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@CarlSteadman @DeChristianLife And no, it doesn't automatically means you have to allow it, even if I don't see the issue with that. With age and time, you can make them understand the need to sleep.

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@CarlSteadman @DeChristianLife Understand that the concept of time, is alien for your children. They only understand the 'now'. It is the adult view that thinks :'4:30 is a horrible time'. It is adult schedules that require children to go to sleep at a specific time. Have more empathy for your kid.