When Shirley and I were first dating, I took her to a buka... not just once, but twice.
To this day, she still jokes about how she couldn't believe I actually did that! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
But my mindset was simple... This is my life. You're stepping into it, and this is the reality of who I am. If you don't like it, you are completely free to leave.
Instead of leaving, she stayed and genuinely enjoyed it.
Once we established that real foundation, of course, I took her to Skye in Ibadan and plenty of other nice restaurants.
Advice for the Unmarried.
Don't put on a performance.
When you are dating, do not overextend yourself financially or emotionally just to create an illusion.
Show them your everyday reality from day one.
You are vetting a partner for their true character and seeing if they are ready for a genuine, shared life commitment.
If someone is truly meant to be in a unified partnership with you, they will embrace the authentic, unpolished version of your life... buka and all... long before they expect the five-star treatment.
Build a foundation based on the truth first, and then enjoy the upgrades together.
You earn 150k net only to stay in a Ksh 3500 bed sitter because you don’t want to made your landlord rich? Does it ever occur to you that you are punishing yourself in your best years for a future you might not even be a part of.
@EmmanBanks1 I had an E300 in 2024 and it was accidents after accident. I let it go and have seen peace on the road ever after never had even a simple scratch up to now!!! 🤣🤣