realizing you cannot or will not kill yourself means losing a safety valve. the unspoken promise that if things get bad enough, you have the option to just walk out before the real misery sets in.
Remember when the pandemic hit and everything was remote? Work, education. Disabled people had been begging for those things to be remote for over a decade until non-disabled people needed them. Two years after, they got rid of it. They can accommodate, they just donโt want to.