Joey

“little strokes fell great oaks” 📈

[Jaynit @jaynitx]

Naval Ravikant: "You're going to die. It's all going to zero. What's there to stress about?"

"Stress is when your mind has two conflicting desires at once. You want to be liked, but you want to do something selfish. You don't want to go to work, but you want to make money. You have two conflicting desires, and that's stress."

Naval explains the difference between stress and anxiety:

"Anxiety is this pervasive, unidentifiable stress where you're stressed out all the time and you're not even sure why. The reason is you have so many unresolved problems that have piled up in your life, you can no longer identify what the problems are. There's this mountain of garbage in your mind. A little bit is poking out the top like an iceberg; that's anxiety. But underneath, there's a lot of unresolved things."

He shares his personal anxiety resolver:

"One big anxiety resolver for me is just ruminating on death. You're going to die. It's all going to zero. You cannot take anything with you. If you can keep that idea in front of you at all times, what's there to stress about?"

Naval reframes what "wasted time" really means:

"What is wasted time? Everything is wasted time in a sense because nothing matters in the ultimate. But in each moment, it's the only thing that matters. So if you're doing something you want to do and you're fully there for it it's not wasted time. If your mind is running away, wishing you were somewhere else, anticipating the future, regretting the past, that's wasted time. That's time you're not present for."

He concludes:

"People get worried about dying and no longer being here. But they don't realize that so much of their life is spent not being here in any case."

[Dmitrii Kovanikov @ChShersh]

For my non-tech friends, this is like Ronaldo joining Manchester City

[Jorge Castillo @JorgeCastilloPr]

Me and Claude working together

[Aakash Gupta @aakashgupta]

There's a physicist at Stanford named Safi Bahcall who modeled this exact principle and the math is wild.

He calls it "phase transitions in human networks." When you're stationary, your probability of a lucky event is limited to your existing surface area: the people you already know, the places you already go, the ideas you've already been exposed to. Your opportunity window is fixed.

When you move, your collision rate with new nodes in a network increases nonlinearly. Double your movement (new conversations, new cities, new projects) and your probability of a serendipitous encounter doesn't double. It roughly quadruples. Because each new node connects you to their entire network, not just to them.

Richard Wiseman ran a 10-year study at the University of Hertfordshire tracking self-described "lucky" and "unlucky" people. The single biggest differentiator wasn't IQ, education, or family money. Lucky people scored significantly higher on one trait: openness to experience. They talked to strangers more, varied their routines more, and said yes to invitations at nearly twice the rate.

The "unlucky" group followed the same routes, ate at the same restaurants, and talked to the same 5 people. Their networks were closed loops. No new inputs, no new collisions.

Luck isn't random. Luck is surface area. And surface area is a function of movement.

The lobster emoji is doing more work than most people realize. Lobsters grow by shedding their shell when it gets too tight. The growth requires a period of total vulnerability. No protection, no armor, soft body exposed to the ocean.

That's the cost of movement nobody posts about. You have to be uncomfortable first. The new shell only hardens after you've already moved.

[Joey @cuuljoey]

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[Joey @cuuljoey]

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[Tim Denning @Tim_Denning]

Advice for ages 30-40

This is the period when you see those who settled for second best, and those who actually took some risks and achieved something.

It’s painful to see people drown in comfort and fool themselves into thinking their career is safe and they’re irreplaceable. 30-40 is also when everyone makes a decision about having a family.

There’s no right or wrong here. But not making a decision is a decision.

If you don’t get meaning from family, you must find it from somewhere else. If you ignore meaning you end up feeling lost. That leads to boredom. To cure it, it requires drugs or excessive dopamine exploitation. It’s why adult soft toys are booming.

Some adults just don’t want to feel anything.

They want to go back to a simpler life when they were a child and the whole world was a fantasy. It’s easier than dealing with the harsh reality of figuring out how to help others.

Selfishness during 30-40 is the real cause of stagnation. It disconnects you from others. People feel like you just treat them as a transaction. No one can relate to you anymore.

Most people work a job inside an adult daycare corporation and get told what to do. They’ve forgotten how to think deeply. There’s zero creativity. And they’ve outsourced their thinking to a boss who doesn’t give a damn about them (and they don’t even know).

The solution is to be willing to change.

If you’re 30-40 and stuck, lost, or underperforming, it’s time to ask: are you willing to change or are you happy to stay the same?

Without change what’s left is a slow death. It’s why the famous line “died at 25 buried at 75” exists. Not changing looks and feels like death to bystanders. But they can’t articulate it. They just know something is wrong.

We fail to change because our ego gets in the way.

It tells us we’re better than we are. It tells us AI isn’t completely rewiring the world. It makes us chase lottery-style opportunities that will likely never become a reality.

Social media makes it worse. It reminds you of who you could have become. It shows you other people who just f*cked around and figured it out instead of watching superhero movies and cuddling adult soft toys. It shows you how a life of comfort destroys you. It makes you a consumer.

If you stuff up your 30s the rest of your life will be painful. You’ll obsess over what you could have done instead of what you did.

Don’t f*ck it up. Stop choosing easy. Do hard things. Watch it change your life.

[Joey @cuuljoey]

@DepressedDCF @erloesung @EastlondonDev Same here😂😂😂

[DAN KOE @thedankoe]

https://t.co/7l7Jef99QZ

[mrredpillz jokaqarmy @JOKAQARMY1]

This man explains the very dark future of iPad kids 🤔

[Jude Duncan @mensaduncan]

.@Sammens shares a special advice to young people seeking to build something meaningful

If you like the advice, share to a friend!

Full interview here: https://t.co/JlbvEJSRMq

[Liverpool 🇫🇷 @ActuLFC]

Firmino n’a pas joué pour les chiffres.
Il a joué pour l’équipe.

[Joey @cuuljoey]

@GeronimoMorgans They dont have the structure like Liverpool?? 😂😂

Man was so scared of Liverpool

[Top 1% Men @dtop1percentmen]

one life. make it count.

[Nanyuki Billionaire🇰🇪 @lewis_ngunyi]

If you're in your early 20s, and have been 'academically gifted' almost without much effort, read this.

You're about to discover that, for the very first time, life will demand effort from you.

You're about to fail. Miserably. Quite soon, and inevitably as well. You cannot avoid it.

You'll expect things to go easy, but they won't. Work (the practical side, at least) very often refuses to mirror the theory you're so adept at absorbing.

Work politics, the boss who's devoted to ensuring your brilliance never shows, the one who genuinely cannot process things as fast as you do, but you have to work under anyway.

The confidence identity you've built almost solely around academic brilliance is an unbelievably fragile platform to stand on, in a world designed for grit, speed and delusion.

Sometimes, in a bid to think everything through, you'll stand in your own way.

You sometimes try to create mental models of the world where everything is perfect, but what you're really doing is defaulting to what comes easily to you - thinking about thoughts.

Sometimes you think it's because you're not careless, but most times it's because what's defined you and your brilliance,has always been ease. So you correlate difficulty with near-failure. And you're scared.

Sometimes you imagine you're above entry level roles, because you've seen your peers (at this level you're very much in contact with outliers) get high paying roles. Then time flies by.

If you're looking to start a business, get a co-founder who's oriented towards getting things done. Or you, yourself, understand that every idea in life, however brilliant, demands getting done.

And accept that "doing" hasn't been your forte. So start throwing yourself into things you're terrible at. Get bad, work through it. Push through the discomfort of looking awkward, and find something you were bad at, that you forced yourself to get good in.

A very decent marker of competence, btw, is a book-smart person who can dance. They're smart enough to make functional mental models of a very complex world, yet humble enough to grind through things they're not naturally gifted at, risk looking awkward, for a reward at the end, or just because.

[The Driven Man @Thedrivenman]

The devil can’t touch a relentless spirit.

[Alex Hormozi @AlexHormozi]

I had a young man stop me in the street when I was walking who said he followed my advice made $80,000 in sales but stopped because it wasn’t his passion.

He asked me “what should I do with my life?”

I didn’t have time to answer him then so I’ll say this:

Most people think following your passion means doing something you love, but that’s not true. It means loving the outcome enough that you were willing to endure suffering in order to achieve it.

And it’s usually because people don’t understand what the word passion means. Passion comes from the Latin root of passio, which means suffering and endurance. Ex: the Passion of Christ (his crucifixion story).

So of course the young man who stopped me didn’t love taking sales calls all day. Almost no one does. But no matter what your “passion “is you’re going to have to do way more stuff that you hate in order to pursue it. So thinking about the percentage of your day you dedicate to doing things you love is a very poor measure of whether or not you are pursuing your passion.

And I think simply clarifying that for people who are on their search for what they want to do with their life might make all the difference between picking a goal worth suffering for vs jumping from fleeting interest to fleeting interest until the work becomes hard and never really making progress.

If you aren’t willing to suffer for it, your love is weak.

[Joey @cuuljoey]

@Footballtweet Harvey Elliot

[Mubbu @wizofecom]

Had a wealthy friend tell me "Your goal in life should be to reduce the amount of time it takes you to get out of a bad state."

The bad states you go through are normal. What matters is being able to consciously catch yourself before you react to them.

When something bad happens, you're going to feel it. The difference is whether you let it control you for hours, days, or weeks, or if you can process it, acknowledge it, and move forward in minutes.

Becoming less reactive doesn't mean nothing bothers you. It means you've trained yourself to recognize when you're in a bad state and pull yourself out of it faster. That's the real growth. Not eliminating the bad moments, but shrinking the time they have power over you.

[Toyyib Adewale Adelodun @taadelodun]

This advice will help you go far in life. Listen!