Chetan Dhruve

Author, How to Think About Marriage and Why Your Boss is Programmed to be a Dictator - using systems thinking to understand behavior in these relationships.

[Chetan Dhruve @cvdhruve]

I've posted an article on Medium:

Love was never part of marriage’s design — why misunderstanding marriage is destroying marriages

https://t.co/1CgFbImQJw

#systemsthinking

[Jeff Mignon @jeffmignon]

Emergence, not glitches. A group of agents with no controller is a complex adaptive system, and group behavior nobody coded is the tell. You can't test for it one agent at a time.

[Chetan Dhruve @cvdhruve]

I've posted an article on Medium:

Love was never part of marriage’s design — why misunderstanding marriage is destroying marriages https://t.co/1CgFbInoz4 #systemsthinking

[Workplace Mental Health Resources @Stopworkplacebu]

Did You Know?

Workplace bullies suffered few consequences while 77 percent of those targeted by bullies left their jobs or were terminated within 3 months of reporting.

[Chetan Dhruve @cvdhruve]

I've posted an article on Medium:

Love was never part of marriage’s design — why misunderstanding marriage is destroying marriages

https://t.co/1CgFbInoz4

#systemsthinking

[Chetan Dhruve @cvdhruve]

I've posted an article on Medium:

Love was never part of marriage’s design — why misunderstanding marriage is destroying marriages

https://t.co/1CgFbInoz4

#systemsthinking

[Workplace Mental Health Resources @Stopworkplacebu]

Unpopular fact:

When someone makes a choice to bully you at work they are actually bullying your whole family because everyone suffers significantly.

[Chetan Dhruve @cvdhruve]

@EthanEvansVP The real problem is that there is no defined rule that a manager has to add value to a subordinate's role. In the absence of formal KPIs related to management of subordinates (and assessed by those subordinates), managers are reduced to martinets. It is a systemic issue.

[Chetan Dhruve @cvdhruve]

In meeting minutes, the names of attendees along with their grades/ranks should be mentioned. Over time, with the assistance of AI, we'd be able to see what the trends are - who's speaking, who isn't, is there any correlation between grades and what's being said, and by whom.

[Marc Randolph @marcrandolph]

Everyone says they want a culture of experimentation. They put it in the all-hands deck. They say the words out loud: “We need to take more risks.”

And then they go back to their offices and quietly punish the people who do.

[𝕾𝖎𝖗 𝕮𝖍𝖗𝖎𝖘 @eagleseyeinc]

9 years ago, i watched a guy get fired for doing the right thing... he built the team, trained everyone, fixed the messes, stayed late, took no credit. the kind of employee companies claim they value.

then he questioned a policy that was quietly screwing junior staff, didn’t insult anyone, didn’t shout. he just asked why... two weeks later: HR invited him and served him some papers saying he’s not a culture fit... then laptop seized, access cut. goodbye.

the manager who created the policy got promoted, the company posted a linkedin thread about psychological safety... bro lost his job for speaking up.

in most companies and workplaces, ethics are tolerated until they challenge authority... you can be loyal, competent and ethical but none of that matters once you threaten someone’s power, ego or comfort.

the system will protect itself first, always and people are replaceable but control is not.

[Chetan Dhruve @cvdhruve]

Why are bad bosses so common? Systems thinking reveals the answer - and it's not the boss's fault.

Read my article, Why Your Boss is Programmed to be a Dictator (below)

https://t.co/de8EAzZXmX

[Chetan Dhruve @cvdhruve]

@TommiPedruzzi Send

[Vala Afshar @ValaAfshar]

I asked a CEO of one of the biggest industrial groups in India which is on the verge of bankruptcy, why this happened?

He replied: “Bosses who don’t listen will eventually be surrounded by people who have nothing to say.” —@hvgoenka

[Chetan Dhruve @cvdhruve]

@Simon_Ingari Toxic systems create toxic managers

[Chetan Dhruve @cvdhruve]

I've posted an article on Medium:

Love was never part of marriage’s design — why misunderstanding marriage is destroying marriages

https://t.co/1CgFbImQJw

#systemsthinking

[Chetan Dhruve @cvdhruve]

@Stopworkplacebu Systems.

[Colin Wright @SwipeWright]

For my entire adult life, I was certain I'd never want children. Then, without warning, that certainty shattered. This is a very personal story about how I went from seeing children as a kind of ending to seeing them as the deepest beginning imaginable.
https://t.co/6YPz71AwY8

[Chetan Dhruve @cvdhruve]

I've posted an article on Medium:

Love was never part of marriage’s design — why misunderstanding marriage is destroying marriages https://t.co/1CgFbInoz4

#systemsthinking

[Chetan Dhruve @cvdhruve]

Marriage is designed to keep couples together when they want to leave.

Therefore, marriage begins when love ends.

#SystemsThinking