Dylan

the same stuff pulses in my veins as yours

[Dylan @d_will_g]

“I exist as I am, that is enough.”

[Dylan @d_will_g]

@SoupOfToday It came naturally to me after a certain point of struggle so trying to teach it to kids who it doesn’t come naturally to has been a nice learning curve 🙂

[Vacha @TVachaW]

Many parents subtly motivate their children via the offering and withholding of love.

This mechanism then gets transferred into how many people motivate themselves.

Their mind / heart withholds love from itself until certain conditions are met.

It says: until I am like this, or I have that, or the world is like this, then I will not give myself love.

Learning how to give yourself unconditional love is one of the biggest free gifts you can offer yourself.

It is possible to live in a state where your default baseline stance towards yourself is love.

You love yourself when you fail, when you are lazy, when you act poorly, even when you are unhappy.

Counterintuitively, this unconditional positive self-regard has a beneficial side effect of making laziness, bad behaviour and unhappiness less common too (perhaps not failure, as to succeed at most worthwhile endeavours usually requires constant failure along the way).

Feeling love for ourselves even when feeling unhappy is a particularly interesting phenomena as it reveals how little suffering there actually is in temporary states of unhappiness when they are held with love.

Also, when we are no longer tensing up against the possibility of having to withdraw love from ourselves, it is a lot easier to act effectively and lots of energy is freed up.

We also start to become motivated by what we actually value in our lives rather than pleasing some inner judge of worthiness.

Of course, cultivating unconditional love for ourselves also makes it a lot easier to give and receive love from others.

Unconditional self-love is one of the closest cousins to unconditional happiness and much more within reach for most.

Cultivating it is a fertile ground for beginning any spiritual journey.

[Dylan @d_will_g]

@wholebodyprayer 😬
It starts very young
I watch an autistic kid in a small group at school stim harder and harder the more demand is placed on him that he can’t meet… think of all of us who don’t have the luxury of being so honest with our bodies yet feeling the same overwhelm 💔

[Dylan @d_will_g]

@SMTaylorauthor @PsychToday Steve, I have you to thank for, around five years ago, connecting me to Walt Whitman through one of your books… reading Song of Myself had a profound impact on me and I want you to know how grateful I am for being the introductory force.

[Dylan @d_will_g]

@wholebodyprayer Anything resembling sane living at this point in society

[Dylan @d_will_g]

@wholebodyprayer And for my next trick!

[Dylan @d_will_g]

@wholebodyprayer @nosilverv What most people enter into is a contract they call “love” where their good feelings for the other person is dependent on them obeying the terms and conditions. The moment they deviate = disappointment, anger, shame. Most parents teach this love as compliance with the other

[Dylan @d_will_g]

@wholebodyprayer

[Dylan @d_will_g]

@wholebodyprayer The disappointment when it is not possible can be very empowering

[Dylan @d_will_g]

@wholebodyprayer My prom date was Autumn
Spring may be too cherubic as they age
Autumn however is a name someone can age into very nicely

[Dylan @d_will_g]

@wholebodyprayer I wouldn’t exactly call it that 🥴

[Dylan @d_will_g]

@wholebodyprayer My father always talked about doing this ❤️‍🩹 glad someone did !

[rosalind lucy @wholebodyprayer]

First we think we are all good. Then we suffer a little & either settle into blaming others or else realise we are really quite fucked. Then we may look at our childhood and how our parents’ selfish and narrow actions impacted us. We may feel angry.
I urge you, dont stop there…

[Dylan @d_will_g]

@wholebodyprayer ❤️

[mia @httpsosweet]

I hope you are getting enough love and sunlight in these hard times

[shadow work guide @anokariver]

It’s crucial (karmically) to have a deep reverence for women in general regardless of how many toxic women you’ve dealt with. You can dislike specific women but your outlook on women needs to be of profound reverence. Don’t fight this one. It’s about you and the divine

[Dylan @d_will_g]

@mitrajoy_ The myth of human progress! We are no different than the cavemen that hit each other over the head with jawbones