CONFIDENCEMAXXING
Be egoistical. You are the priority. Straight posture. Don’t look around unnecessarily. Sculpt your body. Dress well. Focus on your mission. Become a mystery to others. Keep most things to yourself. Enter the room as if everyone were waiting for you. Make yourself comfortable. Speak slowly. Fear nothing. Don’t fake emotions. Make others want to copy your persona.
You can achieve anything you want if you act as you have already got it.
Confident people are not born that way.
It becomes their second nature.
So glad I learned how to turn this off. Spiritually its a form of mental bondage. Lot's wife turned into a pillar of salt for this and that's what you are when you become a slave to nostalgia. Renew your mind daily. All you ever have is the present. Be where your feet are.
turns out, reading voraciously, moving your body, loving people without keeping score, protecting your solitude, chasing nothing but your own growth, and occasionally staying out too late with people who make you laugh until it hurts is not a bad way to build a life.
At root of almost all of your social skill issues is belief you're burdening people. Self-image problem
If you just give 0 fucks and have fun with it, everyone loves that energy. And if they don't they are grumpy & lost. Key is u genuinely gotta not give a fuck, not pretend to not give a fuck (because if ur pretending, u still WANT a result, and that neediness will show)
Can train yourself to believe you're a blessing to any conversation because you bring fun & good vibes. You also bring permission for others to be themselves because you're yourself. And who wouldn't want that?
Then you genuinely cease to believe you're ever a burden. You believe you're genuine value, so why wouldn't you share it, at any moment
I wanted a thousand things in my life, and most of them i didn't get. and i looked at myself the way this post is asking me to, and thought i wasn't smart enough. but years passed, and i started seeing what each of those things would have done to me if i had gotten them, and every single one would have destroyed me - some fast and some slow. everything i didn't get turned out to be the smartest thing that happened to me, but it was not my smartness. it was something else deciding on my behalf, because i was not smart enough to decide for myself. sometimes not getting what you want is the only proof that something out there loves you more than you were ever capable of loving yourself
FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT
Become arrogant. Make others gossip about you. Break social rules. Be unapologetic about your actions. Act from your highest will. Remain hopeful no matter what. Walk like you own the place. Move like a winner. Rest because you deserve it. Get things because you want them.
Reality responds to those who live as if they already have the things they’ve always wanted.
Hard work is a lie.
Let reality bend to your will.
Highly recommend letting people know you're capable of madness from time to time. Especially if you're a quiet, soft spoken person. Disrespect sometimes needs to be met with disrespect.. let mfers know you can go from 0-100 real quick.
You become harder to manipulate when you understand the emotional states that make you careless. Loneliness makes you attach too fast, praise makes you trust too quickly, and shame makes you accept less than you should, self-awareness is not softness but a form of protection.
One thing I hate about having ADHD is how unbelievable it sounds sometimes. Lmao I be wanting to explain myself but honestly it just sounds like a bunch of hoopla