Darius Ryan-Kadem

👶Parenting Educator (2-5yrs)
🧯Tantrums, Defiance, and Fears
🤝Discipline through connection
📕 My eBook.👇

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These drivers are directly tied to reward mechanisms in the brain, reinforcing behaviours that bring comfort and pleasure or reduce discomfort ultimately shaping their development and future actions.

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Children’s behaviour is driven by the pursuit of needs and desires, shaped by both innate and external influences. This can be broken down into four key drivers:

1. Biological Instincts
2. Psychological Conditioning
3. Sociological influences
4. Ideological Development

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3. Sociological Influences:

Family, peers, and cultural norms play a crucial role in shaping behaviour and expectations.

4. Ideological Developments:

As children grow, their beliefs, values, and sense of identity influence their choices.

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It's not about what your emotions are making you do, but rather what you want your emotions to do for you.
You can be enthusiastic, but sit on.
You can be angry, but get on it.
What you do with your emotions is what produces the behaviour.

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What bridges authority and stability is autonomy.

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@maybegray @Tymtweet "Reclaiming childbirth as a rite of passage" by Rachel Reed, was one of the books my wife read during her pregnancy with our first child.

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The greatest gift to a child is not granting them the power to question but ensuring its never taken away.

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@DanielPriestley Great workshop, Daniel. Thank you for your time.

Firstly welldone on getting Ryan Reynolds to follow you.

Secondly, I loved the pace of the workshop and the valuable nuggets.

My 3 takeaways.

1. Skills to scalable IP.
2. Baby boomer market.
3. Small Podcast guest appearance.

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The reward for punishing is a sense of control, whereas positive reinforcement rewards you with a sense of fulfilment.

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In summary, childhood fear of failure is shaped by factors such as parenting, attachment, and self-esteem, leading to anxiety and avoidance of failure.

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Here the 6 reasons behind childhood fear of failure.

1. Parental Expectations:
Excessive criticism or high expectations can lead children to fear failure, associating mistakes with rejection or inadequacy.

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6. Past Experiences:
Previous failures or trauma can create lasting fears of failure, causing avoidance.

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Our job as parents is not to teach our kids how to act but how to think.

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What is the biggest problem you face when disciplining your child?

Examples:

Staying calm?
Refusing to comply?
Enforcing boundaries?
Enforcing consequences?
Rudeness and dismissiveness?
Parental conflict in approaches?
Balance of firmness and compassion?

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Having a child serves as a reminder that you are in control of your time and destiny.