When you're dating someone who wants to grow with you, they will always bring up problems that doesn't sit right with them like not texting back faster, doing the little things like not keeping your candle streak. it's a sign that they value the relationship & truly want to make it work. they do it to help you avoid making the same mistake so the relationship continues to thrive.
I remember dating someone who would often share her feelings and expectations with me. She was essentially telling me how to love and treat her. Although I listened, I didn't truly apply what she said because I was still figuring myself out and assumed she'd always be around. To my surprise, she eventually left and ceased all communication. At first, I felt betrayed and harbored resentment towards her. However, I soon realized that she had been communicating her needs all along, while I had chosen to act according to my own whims. The lesson here is: if someone consistently communicates with you and your actions don't align with their messages, don't be taken aback when they choose to distance themselves. This holds true for all types of relationships, including friendships.
cutting people off feels different now. itโs not anger, itโs grief. like dangโฆ I really wanted you here, but your actions showed me Iโm not safe with you.