Being married is like rowing a boat. When you work together, both rowing oars together, your cooperation moves the boat forward.
When you don’t, when either of you doesn’t pitch in, the boat tends to move around in circles, not really getting anywhere.
When real love & passion are at stake, there will also be some measure of risk, vulnerability, & sometimes even fear.
Moving forward feels scary.
But those feelings should only validate that what you’re moving toward really MATTERS.
Keep moving toward what matters… LOVE.
Unpopular belief: The purpose of date night isn’t to have fun. Obviously, fun is better, but the PURPOSE is to spend quality time getting closer together.
Plan your future, work on projects, work on family issues, spend time with the kids, or… yes, do fun things together!
Touch.
You needed it to thrive as a new born.
You needed it to be consoled and appreciated as a child.
You needed it to connect while dating.
You needed it to bond as a newlywed.
And nothing has changed. You NEED touch. It’s not weakness, it’s HUMAN.
Touch him; Hug him, hold hands, caress his neck, kiss him.
When a wife stops touching her husband, he doesn’t stop wanting it, but he does stop expecting it. That’s the beginning of the end of the marriage.
Most husbands don’t need grand gestures, they just want to be wanted.
Sex isn’t meant to be routine.
Control, intention, curiosity & intensity is what keeps it alive.
When a man stops studying his woman's body & a woman stops responding like she wants to be discovered...
What you have left is duty, not desire. Duty doesn't make anyone moan.
@ryanhimself10@TeeplesCY Haha! We don’t need to world’s permission to be Christian. We are, and that’s that. Believe us or not, accept us or not, it really doesn’t matter. Sorry, brother.
Wanna have a happy marriage?
Start by examining your thoughts about your spouse.
Are you annoyed with them or do you give them grace? Are you rooting for them or hoping they’ll fail so you can be right? Looking for their strengths or weaknesses?
Only YOU can control YOU.
Cooking and cleaning are basic life skills, not gender roles. Men, your wife is your partner, not your maid.
Being romantic and initiating intimacy are marriage essentials, not men’s work. Ladies, it’s not your husband job to get you in the mood.