David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders

Judgment, responsibility, and leadership after success. Philosophy and psychology applied to real decisions.

[David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders @davidtianphd]

Just re-downloaded Twitter and looked around. Been a while.

[David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders @davidtianphd]

The “cure” for neediness isn’t to act as if you don’t have those emotional needs. That would just be more repression. It’s to learn how to meet your own emotional needs yourself, so that you won’t end up forming toxic, codependent #relationships.

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Perfect example of cancel culture — by which I mean 1) forming a mob, to 2) seek to get someone fired (or disproportionately punished), for 3) statements within Overton window. Those doing form-fruste witch burning should be ashamed. ⁦@jonathanchait⁩ https://t.co/BWYArPQf9I

[David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders @davidtianphd]

@ted_ryce Great memories!

[David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders @davidtianphd]

Desperately avoiding #triggers is a *symptom of trauma, not a long-term treatment for it.

[David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders @davidtianphd]

@Kajabi Thanks! Seems to have resolved itself several hours later

[David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders @davidtianphd]

@Kajabi just checking, is there a system outage or downtime going on? Our team in 3 countries and clients on 2 continents are finding it very slow (or page crashing) when trying to make any changes or edits in Kajabi today.

[David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders @davidtianphd]

You cannot unconditionally #love another until you can unconditionally love the disowned parts of yourself. Otherwise, it’s just needy or transactional connection.

[David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders @davidtianphd]

To have your heart broken open... is the only gateway to unlock the highest levels of consciousness. The same beautiful pain is considered suffering by one and glorious by another. It all depends on how you meet it.
#therapy

[David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders @davidtianphd]

True #growth requires resistance, challenge, and hardship. So lean into it, and seize the opportunity when it arises. 💪🏼❤️

[David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders @davidtianphd]

The source of our neediness. Love, affection, connection, and acceptance are all basic human needs. We have all exiled vulnerable parts of ourselves. But it is those very parts of us that are in need. Just… https://t.co/GaLBvB7ANT

[David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders @davidtianphd]

Topic of the day: Healthy boundaries in psychology.
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Your boundaries are violated when you are made to feel responsible for another adult’s thoughts, emotions, or behavior. You are responsible for your own… https://t.co/KBA8kbjh1q

[David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders @davidtianphd]

For the last 5 years, my team and I have been involved in a series of international studies, which have just been published in the Tier 1 academic publication, Journal of Personality.
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Researchers from the… https://t.co/honDU4kuKJ

[David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders @davidtianphd]

I chose to watch G.I. Joe, Thundercats, He-man, and other action-y cartoons growing up instead of Mr. Rogers. So now I get the gift of discovering him in my middle-age 😋 What a treasure! 🥰
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(I think people between… https://t.co/roAReOVMcH

[David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders @davidtianphd]

True growth requires resistance, challenge, and hardship. So lean into it, and seize the opportunity when it arises. 💪🏼❤️ https://t.co/LOPFzjnt0F

[David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders @davidtianphd]

The breakthrough may feel like it comes out of nowhere, but it never does. It’s always the result of lots of little, almost imperceptible cracks accumulating over time until enlightenment breaks through.

[David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders @davidtianphd]

We tend to think breakthroughs in personal growth come suddenly out of nowhere. But they never do. They’re always preceded by many powerful but subtle shifts that add up over time... until the dam breaks and the hidden becomes manifest.

[David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders @davidtianphd]

@JamesClear 10% is relative to the cohort group, so it depends on how competitive the field is. And the more people who do this, the harder it’d become to pull off.

[David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders @davidtianphd]

@nfergus This is a ridiculous, out of touch, old guard reaction. If #TikTok didn’t buy #Musical.ly, it would’ve been https://t.co/iypFStPZEd doing the same thing to American teens. There’s nothing particularly Chinese in the cultural content of Tik Tok.

[David Tian PhD. Private Adviser to Global Leaders @davidtianphd]

“If you keep at it, one day, your max will become your warm up.”
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Just keep showing up. Get the best coaching you can. And take it one day/week/month/year at a time. Slow and steady wins the race. 💪🏼❤️🙏🏼 https://t.co/8lvnYyZFJy