A coworker of mine left her husband of 3 years. She normally does all the laundry and cooking, but when she was sick, he only washed his own clothes and made dinner for himself, telling her, 'I'm sorry, I just can't, I'm tired.' People really do show you in small ways that they don't even like you.
Can we talk about how fucking exhausting it is, constantly trying to distract yourself from your own mind? not being able to have any real time to relax yourself because you’re so terrified of your own head, because it’s so mentally and physically draining
My therapist told me
"We need to talk about the trauma of being the 'good kid' who grew up to be the exhausted adult. You spent your entire childhood chasing gold stars, keeping the peace, and making sure you never caused a single inconvenience for the adults around you. You became hyper-vigilant about reading the room, managing everyone else's moods, and burying your own needs so deep you forgot they existed. Now, you're an adult who physically panics at the thought of disappointing a stranger, handles conflict like a death sentence, and feels guilty just for resting. You weren't actually an 'easy' child-you were just a child who learned very early that your safety depended on your compliance. It is time to stop auditioning for everyone else's approval and start learning who you are when you aren't trying to save the day.
Most people don’t realize you can drive someone to total detachment. Whether it’s a friend, partner, or family, they reach a point where they don’t want you around ever again tsk