Heal me on the Day of Arafah, Ya Allah. Heal me so deeply that even my memories stop hurting. Replace the tears in my eyes with light in my heart. Make me forget the words that wounded me and remember only that You are enough for me.
An unhealed man is incapable of understanding that a woman's emotional distress is a reaction to her feeling unsafe. He sees her pain as a nuisance. A healed man understands the importance of his grounded presence, takes responsibility and creates a space for her to feel safe.
Quran says again and again
“And future will be better for you than the past” (93:4)
“If the hurt comes, so will the happiness” (94:5-6)
“So remember me and I will remember you” (2:152)
it's unfair how people who traumatize you get to move on and progress with their life so casually and carefree while you're healing and relearning all the basics just to feel human again