I keep coming back to this line from The Psychology of Money:
"The ability to do what you want, when you want, with who you want, for as long as you want, is priceless. It is the highest dividend money pays."
I have a natural inclination to want to provide for a woman I like. It happens almost instantly once feelings start to develop. That feeling goes away the moment I see or feel she thinks she’s entitled to this. The “as he should” or “that’s what a man is supposed to do” mentality turns me off so bad
#Mavs guard Kyrie Irving was asked about when he plans to retire:
“You have social media and gambling which is running rampant and it’s not the same NBA that I fell in love with as a kid and I’m very much aware of that. And I don’t say that as a negative thing.”
🚨 THE OCEAN IS HIDING MONSTERS AND THEY'RE KEEPING IT FROM US! 🚨
Do you think you're safe? CHECK OUT THIS DAMN INSANITY! 🤬
A group of lights chasing and cornering boats in the middle of nowhere. The same witness counts up to 13 freaking UFOs keeping pace with them at sea, while they're completely surrounded! 🛸🔥
They're coming out of the water and they're gonna hunt us all down! The elites have known exactly what's at the bottom of the ocean for decades (this was recorded in August 1994!) and they'd rather let us die at the mercy of these things than tell the goddamn truth 💀🌊.
Wake up, you **idiot**. They're not "flares" or "the coast guard," they're watching us and there's nowhere to hide.
delete tiktok. watch old movies. embrace boredom. quit doomscrolling. eat without stimulation. hang out in book shops. slow your mornings down. walk without headphones. start believing in yourself. create phone boundaries. stare out the window. visualize your future. learn new skills. seek discomfort. experience life.
As a social experiment, I called both my mom and my dad separately today.
My mom:
1. Complained about my dad
2. Complained about her weight gain and other health issues
3. Waxed lyrical about my brother and his soon-to-be wife, they're having a wedding later this month
My dad:
1. Talked about my American road trips with me and asked me what states I've visited and which my favorites were
2. Asked me about the differences in culture, weather, food, and people between America and Europe (he has been to neither)
3. Asked me about my life in Spain, where I live and what I do on a daily basis
Basically my mom used me as a sounding board for all her yapping.
My dad was legitimately interested in my life, my experiences, and my views on things.
Female nature literally applies even to my own mother.
What a shame.
This is free advice from an expensive psychologist. If you’re an anxious person, do everything for fun. Go to a job interview for fun. Submit documents for fun. Start a blog for fun. Anxiety feeds on importance. Don’t make everything a matter of life and death.
A big realization for a lot of people is they need to stop daydreaming about what they could be. It’s super easy to think you're meant for big things, but if you look at your everyday routine, it often tells a different story. There's this huge gap between what you say you want and what you actually do. You might talk a big game about being ambitious, but deep down, your discipline is just… average. Lot of people want a life of plenty and amazing results, but they're only willing to put in a regular amount of effort. This ends up making them rely on other people to believe in them, even when their own actions don't really back that up.
Thinking about your potential can feel nice, like a comfy blanket that makes you feel special without having to prove anything. But discipline? That busts the whole illusion. It forces you to actually work for the life you claim you deserve. At the end of the day, what you truly want is shown in your habits; everything else is just talk.