Everyone keeps talking about “giving grace to your parents” but you hardly hear them say give grace to your children. It’s embedded in our culture and religion. That is why we have so many parents repeating the cycle because they know the society will always back them up.
A big part of being reliable is communicating in time to let people know you can't show up for them at that moment. There is maturity in recognizing that reliability doesn't mean being perfect it means having the respect and self awareness to give a heads up when you can’t.
one day you'll realize nobody was stopping you. you just kept negotiating with yourself, waiting for more certainty, more confidence, a better time. none of them were ever going to arrive first.
I find it so #fascinating that someone would educate themselves on how to raise a dog before getting one but just go ahead and have kids without thinking similar learning is required to the point they end up applying dog rearing methodologies to their kids.
you must believe you are special and then go so hard, for so long, with such violent refusal to accept any other ending, that reality itself starts running out of ways to tell you no. you must wage a war daily against the ordinary outcome, until the belief you invented out of nothing in a room by yourself has been hammered into the world so many times that it stops being a claim and becomes reality.