My heart is broken💔: As friends & family know, my wife was pregnant with our 2nd child, & about to begin her 2nd trimester. A few days ago she had severe pains, & bleeding, and had to go to the emergency room. There, it was discovered that our baby no longer had a heartbeat. Devastated doesn't come close to what that feels like.
Unfortunately for people like us, because of the current laws in the state of Texas, that was only the beginning of this nightmare. Jess (my wife) had an "incomplete miscarriage", and what needed to happen, what was best for HER, and her health, was to terminate the pregnancy, and get the baby out.
The doctor gave her a medication that would move this process along, and sent her home. Where, apparently we would be handling it ourselves. We were told it might take a couple of attempts before it worked.
I'll let you decide how you feel about that.
After a long, painful night of the equivalent of early labor, the baby was still with her. So, we went back to the Emergency Center to get the 2nd dose. A new doctor was on call. He was an older man. You could hear him in the hallway as he said, "I'm not giving her a pill so she can go home and have an ab*rtion!". Being well aware that our baby no longer had a heartbeat. Then, he came into the room to say, and I quote: "Considering the current stance. I'm not going to prescribe you this pill". Then, just sent us on our way.
The "CURRENT STANCE"?! Did he really just say that?!
No one should ever have to hear their wife say: "Get this dead baby out of me!".
Can you even imagine how that must feel?
The pain, and the bleeding continued. So, we decided to go to another hospital, about an hour away. There was a female doctor on call there, and we thought we might have better luck.
I should probably mention, the procedure to get the baby out is called a D & C. It's scary, & traumatizing, but sometimes necessary in situations like ours. Especially in emergency circumstances.
So we get to the next hospital. They take Jess in, ask her a bunch of questions, do a new scan... confirm that the baby is still there, with no heartbeat, and then disappear... for hours. Only to come back in and keep asking the same questions over and over. It's becoming clear that they're primary concern is NOT my wife's health. Instead, they seem to be worried about the legalities involved.
So, they decide it is not "enough of an emergency" to perform the D & C.
They do, however, prescribe another, stronger, final dose of the medication for us to try again... at home.
So, we go home to try again. Another long day/night of early labor pains. Only to discover my wife UNCONSCIOUS in the bathroom. Having to pick my wife's cold, limp body off of that bathroom floor, not sure if I was about to lose her, is something I will NEVER forget.
She had to be rushed to the hospital.
By this point she had lost so much blood, and bodily fluid, her body gave out.
They were able to stabilize her, give her the fluids she needed, and we came back home yesterday afternoon. We were also able to confirm that our baby was no longer with her.
Now, not only do we have to live with the loss of our baby... we have to live with the nightmare of what we just experienced because of political and religious beliefs. MY WIFE'S HEALTH SHOULD HAVE COME FIRST. PERIOD!
God knows what mental and emotional damage this has done.
If you consider yourself a staunch "pro-lifer" ... 1) You've never been through what we just went through, and 2) You should take a long, hard look in the mirror and reevaluate your reasons for supporting such a cold, barbaric, ignorant point of view.
It's not that black & white, and it's never going to be.
If you think your "Pray To End Ab*rtion" sign in your yard is "Christian", I suggest you revisit the teachings of Jesus and try again. If you support these laws that make ab*rtion illegal, and result in people being put through what we just were, you should be ashamed of yourself. I've never been so angry, or heartbroken... and the devastation I'm feeling must pale in comparison to what my poor wife is feeling.
An excerpt from a 1933 letter by Karl Barth to a student considering quitting his theological studies due to the dismal state of the German church under Nazi influence: (1/8)
A MasterClass on Storytelling
4 year Storytelling Degree in just 5 minutes
You def need this. Kurt Vonnegut is a total legend.
Bookmark and comeback to this again and again.
I saw “Barbie” this week with my wife. Here are 3 simple thoughts:
1️⃣ The film is a satire. (A very unique one I might add.) The point of a satire is to tell a story in a way that shocks you so your eyes are opened to reality.
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I have a confession to make
I support female pastors and equality between husbands and wives
And it’s time to admit…
I feel this way because I’ve been influenced by culture 🧵
I asked my audience: "What is the best sports book you've ever read?" — and received more than 1,000 responses.
Here are the Top 10 👇
1) Open, an autobiography by Andre Agassi.
Everyone needs to read this, seriously.
Imagine claiming that a few Bible verses on human sexuality are literal divine commands from God for all of society, all while claiming the +3,000 verses calling for the care of immigrants, the marginalized, the oppressed, and the poor should just be a personal choice.
@CJ_Cregg_Cook Hey Connor, I think we went to school at Wheaton together? Just found you, we must be running in similar Twitter circles haha — cool to see you come out as a voice for Christians in LGBTQ+, excited to learn more from you,and wishing you all the best!
How is evangelicalism doing?
Apologetics: Ravi Zacharias / RZIM
Biblical studies: John MacArthur, Wayne Grudem
Church leadership: Bill Hybels
Denominations: Hillsong, Sovereign Grace Ministries, Southern Baptist Convention
Education: Jerry Falwell, Liberty University
Famous pastors: James MacDonald, Mark Driscoll, Andy Wood, Joel Osteen, Joyce Meyer, C.J. Mahaney, Carl Lentz, John Piper
Fiction: The Left Behind series
Finances: Dave Ramsey, Bill Hwang
Parenting: Bill Gothard, The Duggar Family
Politics: Donald Trump
Religious broadcasting: Pat Robertson/CBN, Paul and Jan Crouch/TBN
Science: Ken Ham
Sexual ethics: Josh Butler, Emerson Eggerichs, Willard Harley
Summer camps: Kanakuk
Worship music: Hillsong, Bethel, Elevation
Of course, these are just *some* of the many scandals, aberrant teaching, or abusive situations… going on right now or recently disclosed.
My point?
There’s a reason that people are looking at our churches and saying, yea, that doesn’t look like Jesus.
When this guy went viral for holding a beer instead of an iPhone, @MichelobULTRA went real-time marketing.
Within 48 hours, the brand:
- made him their social spokesperson
- gave him his own merch line?!
- took him to the next PGA tour stop
A social case study + analysis 🧵: