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If there is a "pandemic of men hitting 30s and 40s and still unmarried" does that not mean there is a corresponding "pandemic of women hitting menopause and still unmarried?"

If yes, why are women, renowned for their selfishness, seemingly more concerned about a so-called male pandemic.

Why is a woman framing it as a male problem rather than a female one?

Because framing it as a female pandemic exposes the desperation of the author and by extension, women, for marriage.

Desperation because

1. Women are not the initiators of marriage. Men are. Women choose boyfriends. Men choose wives

2. Women have a narrower reproductive window, and past 30, their sexual market value nosedives so they desperately need a man to marry them before then.

And failure to secure a husband beyond that point, leads to desperation.

So a "pandemic" of unmarried men, by logical implication, means a pandemic of unmarried women - and being unmarried past 30 is an existential dread for women.

So when the quoted author talks about an "unmarried male pandemic", it is not because she cares about men.

No. Women do not care about men.

It is because she cares about herself, and if men are not getting married, she fears that no man will marry her.

Especially considering she has passed her prime.

In other words, she is lamenting what a 'pandemic' of unmarried men means for her, but she cannot frame it that way without exposing her insecurities.

Because to describe unmarried women as a pandemic would be to acknowledge that women crave marriage from men yet men are increasingly reluctant to offer it.

Especially considering we live in a feminist culture that claims marriage is a tool of patriarchal oppression.

So it would expose the uncomfortable reality that she specifically, and women like her, broadly speaking who are past their prime, desire marriage desperately but are still unmarried because no man has chosen to marry them

Or oppress them.

So she reverses the framing.

Instead of presenting women as the ones anxious about not being married, she presents men as the ones suffering from not marrying.

Hence "male pandemic"

Instead of acknowledging female anxiety, she has diagnosed a male crisis.

Instead of saying "we are worried that men are not marrying us", she says, "I am concerned for men who are not married"

This, like the "male loneliness epidemic" trope, is rhetorical abracadabra that portrays women's anxieties as a compassionate concern for men's welfare.

It is a personal fear camouflaged as an altruistic concern

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Umahi’s Diversion Admission Vindicates My Stand on Lagos-Calabar Coastal Road — Duke

There is no Lagos-Calabar Coastal Highway. What we have is a Lagos Coastal Highway that will never get to Calabar. Minister Umahi’s comment on the terrain has vindicated me. Roads can be built in places like Bayelsa, but the terrain makes it prohibitively expensive. This project, from Victoria Island to Epe, is simply a land grab.

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