People who were forced into caregiving: we love our family and try our best but this is really hard and not healthy for family members, maybe we shouldn’t force it on others
People who chose it for one reason or another: fuck you stupid selfish shits, suffering is good actually
If after the current discourse, you still can’t see how the American pro-life movement has been co-opted by our perverse medical system to make money, you should consider yourself highly blessed.
Because you clearly haven’t spent much time in hospitals.
Dreamt last night that a photo of me at the Kushner/Trump wedding leaked? And people started to graffiti images of bonfires on the White House?
I was not at that wedding, but I do like the graffiti idea…
People like to joke about this, but without daily physical exercise, a healthy diet, engaging hobbies and a very specific advanced directive that states what medical interventions you’re willing to endure: this is your future. It’s everyone’s.
Make good choices!
Having a disabled child dynamites your entire life in a way you'll never understand unless you experience it. It might also give you a phenomenal sense of purpose. You may get some help, you might get almost no help whatsoever. I really don't think people should judge
At what point is this next level empathy and compassion just pride?
A way to feel better about ourselves while making our loved ones the subject of medical experimentations?
I’m obviously guilty of believing I’m holier than thou for being a caregiver, but should I?
@elle_carnitine No? If the state hadn’t abandoned disabled people, the care would be less burdensome. No world of difference. As it stands, disabled people, especially cognitively disabled adults, are incredibly burdensome due to lack of options for caregivers
@Nyct0phil3_x I found that part by getting really into 16th century Church history. Teresa of Avila lived in a crazy time, post Malleus Malleficarum, amidst the Protestant revolution, middle of the inquisition…
A lot of these people saying “I would adopt a Down Syndrome baby in a heartbeat” would not last a day taking care of a severely physically and intellectually disabled adult.
Whatever novel medication he’s taking works well. 20 years ago, someone in his condition would be either non-functioning or dead.
You’re witnessing the first zombie president! Everything is treatable now. Death included.
Now what?
Preventing a lifetime of expensive medical treatments with simple, inexpensive care *should* be the goal of medicine
Unfortunately, this isn’t a profitable business model
Again, why do we think “pro-life influencers” make 500k+ a year?
This week, my wife and I made the very difficult decision to terminate the pregnancy due to Trisomy 21.
The choice was not made lightly. We really appreciate all of the personal stories that you guys shared with us, especially the unconditional support we received from fans with no matter what we decided.
I know some of you may be very disappointed to hear this news. We are devastated. This has been extremely traumatic for both of us, especially Ashley.
She underwent the procedure earlier this week and is on the mend. Thankfully, everything went smoothly, but emotionally we are drained.
Trisomy 21, also known as Down Syndrome, is caused by an extra chromosome. It is caused by an error in cell division, like a glitch. The odds of a baby having it is 1 in 1000.
When I first confronted this news, I was shocked but optimistic. If they’re a little slow intellectually, then we’ll make it work. I signed on to be a parent, come what may…but I just didn’t fully understand what Down Syndrome entailed.
Once we made it public, it became clear that MOST people don’t know what Down Syndrome entails (and no, it’s not the same as Autism):
50% of babies with DS have heart defects. 75% will have hearing challenges. Over 50% will have vision problems. Impaired immune function, developmental disabilities, learning disabilities, delayed physical development, poor muscle tone, structural issues with face, decreased lifespan, etc…Sadly, the list is long, feel free to look it up…Down Syndome isn’t a “blessing”, it is objectively shitty from a health perspective.
I didn’t realize just how rough it is for the child, let alone the family…more often than not, they would be fully dependent on others for the rest of their life.
The miscarriage risk is also close to 50%, which made matters worse…they may never see the light of day and it puts Ashley further at risk.
We spoke with doctors, friends, family and genetic counselors and learned that up to 90% of women terminate their pregnancy after learning the baby has Trisomy 21.
This was WAY higher than I expected, I thought it would be lower given that I hear so many say they kept or would keep the baby. I believe that’s because most terminations happen privately, it feels shameful. A lot of judgment being cast.
You never think you’d be in this type of situation until it happens to you and then things change.
To all of my fans who have weighed in on this topic who have Autism, Down Syndrome or any other conditions…we appreciate you. You matter a lot and we’re glad you’re here. I commend you and your families for having the strength and courage to push forward.
As for us, we made a difficult decision that we believe in the long-run will be beneficial for our family. Thankfully, we had a choice.
It will take a little time to move on, but we are excited to try again in the future and hopefully have a better outcome.
Love you guys & thank you for understanding. ❤️
@KristanHawkins ‘We need to force families to be lifelong medical patients for my comfort’-
A GLP-1 user
Nothing but wins for the American medical industry over here
*many* female friendships were built on the bonds of mutual mommy problems
the women being rude have all experienced unhealed women projecting these mommy problems onto their friends while getting dog-walked by men. it’s triggering. let’s all be more kind to one other
women will ALWAYS have a “at first I thought you were a bitch” moment to laugh about but when someone else points that yes it’s hard to make female friendships when youre just a bit different without going through all the trials of Hercules it’s a crazy male centered red flag
@darthgordita Yes, but I think the thing that’s fooling people is that it *was* alive at one point. The data it trained on came from very real labor. It’s a Frankenstein for sure, and a convincing one at that.