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[maddanz @dnazmn1]

Life is full of surprises you don’t know what will happen so enjoy and be ready for surprises.

[hdgavwgw @na_adf]

Stay strong para-para hero semua. Shoutout to wife yg always sentiasa support juga

We need more content appreciating each other more, bukannya content berkira, buka aib pasangan dan sebagainya.

[Sash ~ @ltarsenal]

Don't know if its just me but that PL title has made me way calmer watching Arsenal games. I was quite chilled out even when we were 1-0 down.

[Fendi #RobohKuilHaram @BendiTheBagak]

Orang Malaysia kena ingat. Yang kita gaduh2 dengan Indonesia ni sebenarnya kita tak gaduh dengan Sumatera, Kalimantan, Makassar semua tu.

Kita hanya bergaduh dgn Jawa supremacists je, yang iri hati dengan orang Melayu.

Aku tak faham kenapa Jawa benci dgn Melayu, Melayu tak pernah rasa tinggi drpd Jawa ataupun suku2 yang lain.

Setiap suku ada kehebatan masing2, tak perlu rasa diri lagi tinggi drpd yang lain.

[Ryanair @Ryanair]

head up lads, European football is back this week. Oh Wait.

[Sar Rayz @RayzSar]

Training with rugby bags just to be carried in the air like a thief is nuts 😭😭😭😂😂

[cik petai 🍉 @AsyikinMusa]

Kenapa semua benda nak kira siapa untung, siapa rugi?
Suami memang Allah dah jadikan tak boleh mengandung, tak boleh melahirkan, tak boleh menyusu.
Itu fitrah, bukan advantage.

Marriage bukan balance sheet nak tally siapa sacrifice lebih banyak.
Mawaddah warahmah means you understand each other’s burden, bukan ungkit pengorbanan untuk prove siapa lebih untung.

Kalau dah sampai anak pun nak kira ROI suami vs ROI isteri, memang lari jauh dah konsep partnership tu.

[Tommy Mundy 💎 @mundy_tom]

@UziWya Wheelchair access

[عَـدۡلـِــــي @hkmiadli]

tulis panjang-panjang ni sebab beranggapan kawin ni merencatkan kehidupan. seolah-olah nak kata kawin ni penghujung jalan padahal cuma salah satu persinggahan saja.

kahwinlah umur muda sekali pun, masih panjang perjalanan hidup tu. hidup tidak berakhir dengan perkahwinan.

[☀️ RS₿ 🧬 @RealSunBros]

Something that I told my wife otw belanja grocery that I want to document it here.

Masyarakat kita sebenarnya dah tenat dan semakin jauh daripada cara agama mengajar kita melihat kehidupan.

Orang muda nak berkahwin pun ditakut-takutkan.

“Dah cukup duit ke?”
“Kerja dah stable?”
“Rumah dah ada?”
“Macam mana nak survive?”
“Macam mana nak bagi anak bini makan?”

As if marriage only becomes permissible once a man has achieved some arbitrary level of financial certainty.

Sedangkan Allah sendiri berfirman:

“If they are poor, Allah will enrich them from His bounty.”

Surah An-Nur 24:32

Notice what Allah is telling us.

Allah did not say,

“Only marry once you are financially stable.”

Allah explicitly acknowledges poverty as a possibility and then reminds us that poverty is not beyond His ability to remedy.

Kita terlalu yakin dengan financial planning kita, tapi terlalu lemah keyakinan kita kepada Ar-Razzaq.

Selama kita hidup, bukankah selama ini Allah yang cukupkan rezeki kita?

Sebelum kita ada pekerjaan, Allah dah beri makan.

Sebelum kita tahu dari mana duit akan datang, Allah dah tahu apa yang kita perlukan.

Makhluk yang tak mempunyai pekerjaan, bank account, business plan atau financial security pun Allah bagi makan.

Anjing liar pun Allah bagi makan.

Anak yatim yang kehilangan mak ayah pun Allah bagi makan.

Tiba-tiba bila seseorang nak berkahwin, kita pula yang sibuk bertanya:

“Siapa nak bagi mereka makan?”

Who exactly have we been relying on all this time?

Our salary?
Our employer?
Our savings?
Or Allah?

Of course, this does not mean seorang lelaki boleh kahwin secara reckless, malas bekerja, tak mahu belajar, tak mahu merancang, kemudian label semua itu sebagai tawakkul.

That's not tawakkul.

Tawakkul means you take the means and then place your reliance upon Allah, not upon the means themselves.

Jadi ya, lelaki wajib berusaha mencari nafkah, belajar mengurus kewangan, bersedia memikul tanggungjawab dan buat keputusan dengan matang.

Tetapi menjadikan takut miskin or whatever other reasons sebagai alasan untuk menakut-nakutkan orang daripada perkahwinan adalah sesuatu yang sangat berbeza.

And if marriage eventually turns out to be the wrong decision for someone, so what?

Adakah manusia sejak lahir sampai mati tidak pernah membuat keputusan yang salah?

Of course we do.

Human life is literally a sequence of decisions, consequences, corrections, failures, lessons and improvements.

Some decisions turn out beautifully.

Some decisions turn out terribly.

Some decisions look foolish in hindsight.

Some decisions hurt the person who made them.

And sometimes, the consequences are also felt by the people around them.

That's life.

What does a healthy community do when someone makes a bad decision?

If they're wise, they guide, advise, assist and help the person recover.

If they're foolish, they condemn the person as though they themselves have never made a single mistake in their entire life.

Bukankah begitulah manusia belajar?

Bukankah begitu keluarga berfungsi?

Bukankah begitu komuniti membantu anggotanya?

Bukankah sebahagian besar kemajuan manusia sejak awal peradaban datang daripada manusia membuat kesilapan, mengalami consequences, belajar daripada kesilapan itu, kemudian memperbaiki diri?

So why do we suddenly treat marriage as though every possible negative outcome must be eliminated before a person is allowed to take the first step?

And this is where our hypocrisy becomes even more obvious.

Look at how society treats riba.

Kita hidup dalam sebuah masyarakat di mana household debt sangat meluas, lebih 80% isi rumah membedal riba. Kalau kau jalan kat public, 8/10 daripada orang yang kau jumpa bedal riba.

But people will casually discuss:

“Loan mana paling murah?”

“Ambil berapa tahun?”

“Credit card mana paling banyak cashback?”

“Macam mana nak maximise points?”

“Ambil loan dulu, nanti refinance.”

“Macam mana nak build credit score?”

In other words, masyarakat bukan sekadar tolerating riba. Sometimes they actively teach people how to optimise it.

Yet Allah's warning regarding riba is not:

“Be careful, nanti susah sikit.”

Allah says:

“If you do not, then be informed of a war from Allah and His Messenger.”

Surah Al-Baqarah 2:279

That is the severity of the warning.

But somehow, our society is often more terrified of a young man/woman getting married while poor than a person entering a transaction that Allah describes in terms of war against Him and His Messenger.

A young man says:

“Aku nak kahwin, tapi aku ada duit sangat.”

“Jangan! Nanti susah!”

A young man says:

“Aku nak ambil loan.”

“Okay, jom kira interest, tenure, cashback and monthly instalment.”

What happened to our priorities?

Why are we so terrified of the possibility that marriage might lead to temporary financial hardship, but so comfortable normalising a financial system explicitly condemned by Allah?

And here's something even more disturbing, Allah Himself tells us who whispers this fear into our hearts.

“Satan threatens you with poverty and commands you to immorality, while Allah promises you forgiveness from Him and bounty.”

Surah Al-Baqarah 2:268

Syaitan menakutkan kita dengan kemiskinan. Allah menjanjikan kita keampunan dan kurniaan.

Read that again.

So when a society constantly tells young people:

“Don't get married, nanti miskin.”

“Don't have children, nanti tak cukup duit.”

“Wait until you're financially perfect.”

“Wait until everything is guaranteed.”

We should at least ask ourselves:

Are we teaching people wisdom and responsibility or are we inadvertently teaching them the very fear of poverty that Allah attributes to the whispers of Shaytan? Are we trying to become Shaytan?

And why are we so terrified of being poor anyway?

Miskin bukan dosa. Susah bukan kehinaan. Hidup miskin bukan failure.

The Prophet ﷺ himself lived through periods of severe material hardship.

Aisha رضي الله عنها narrated that two months could pass without a fire being lit in the households of the Prophet ﷺ, and their food would be little more than dates and water.

Would the modern “provider police” look at that and say:

“Nabi tak cukup provide.”

“Nabi patut kerja harder.”

“Nabi patut bagi lifestyle yang lebih comfortable.”

Of course not.

Because deep down, we know something our modern riba consumerist mindset keeps trying to make us forget:

Being a good husband is not synonymous with making your wife rich.

Providing does not mean guaranteeing your family a life free from hardship.

A man can fulfil his responsibilities and still be poor.

He can work hard and still struggle.

He can provide what he is capable of while his family lives simply.

And none of that automatically makes him a failure.

The companions رضي الله عنهم likewise included many who lived through poverty, hunger and extraordinary hardship.

Yet they did not measure the worth of a life by how comfortable it was.

Because they believed in something we increasingly struggle to believe which is this dunya is temporary.

We are not promised a life without hardship.

We are promised that hardship has meaning when endured with iman and obedience.

And for the believer, the final calculation is not made at the end of this month.

It's made in the Akhirah.

Imagine reaching Jannah by the mercy of Allah after a lifetime of hardship.

The hunger.

The financial struggles.

The tiny house.

The cheap food.

The difficult years.

The sacrifices.

All of it becomes insignificant compared to what Allah has prepared.

Allah says:

“No soul knows what joy has been hidden for them as a reward for what they used to do.”

Surah As-Sajdah 32:17

And no, this isn't an argument for irresponsible marriage. It is an argument against turning financial uncertainty into a religion of its own.

Plan.
Work.
Save what you can.
Learn.
Take responsibility.
Choose your spouse wisely.
Fulfil your obligations.

But after you've done all that, understand one fundamental reality:

You are not the provider.

You are merely one of the means through which Ar-Razzaq provides.

And perhaps that's the part modern people has forgotten.

We have become so obsessed with making sure we can guarantee tomorrow that we have forgotten:

Tomorrow was never ours to guarantee in the first place.

Jadi jangan sampai kita terlalu takut miskin sehingga kita mula meragui janji Allah.

Because poverty is not the greatest disaster.

The greatest disaster is becoming so afraid of poverty that you lose your trust in Allah, normalise what He has forbidden, and abandon what He has made lawful.

[maddanz @dnazmn1]

this shit funny as hell bro tryna sneak BS7 😂😂😭😭

[Abochie (Fan) 🧘🏽‍♂️ @_abochie_]

This only works for CR7, BS7 and R9 man, this sounds like a promo code for Uber eats.

[Mat Sifir ⚡🚀 🌕 @RahlmlJmldn]

Wife punya nenek meninggal semalam.

Ada dengar orang kampung cakap kematian istimewa sebab meninggal hari maulidur rasul.

Sambutan maulid yang tiada asal dalam agama boleh membuka pintu kepada kepercayaan yang tiada dalil dalam agama.

Jagalah keaslian agama yang nabi bawa.

[bONGO 🌐 @wariocolosseum]

i just know the ppl who grew up playing random games like this probably had the best childhood ever

[Paddy Power @paddypower]

It only took one game for Spurs and Man United to drain all optimism and confidence from their fans.

You can't teach that. Some clubs just have it.

[Emmanuel Echeta @PenTitan]

I watched last night's game

Coventry has a decent team. They were just unlucky to face the champions on their first game

If they had played against clubs on their level, like Man Utd, they would have done better

Better luck next time for them

[Faizal Rosly @ijaicool]

Buat peminat Manchester United, tak usah bersedih. Ini semua Hull keduniaan

[Alex Goldberg @GoldbergCFC]

Every time Man Utd show the slightest sign of being back, they make sure to clear up the misunderstanding immediately.

[Nemean Lion  @nemeanaslan]

Kalau tengok dalam tu, semua perempuan.

Inilah kaum yang hak dia nak, hak orang lain, hak suami, hak OKU semua dia tak peduli.

Jenis pendek akal.

Jadi kalau ada gerakan2 bodoh dari perempuan, fenimis ke, pelangi ke, gelakkan je lah sambil meludah.

[Lewis SANmilton @secebisan]

Mat rempit minta tutup highway setahun sekali kemain engkorang marah, ni budak budak kaki berlari tutup jalan tiap minggu kat tengah bandar sampai orang susah nak pergi kerja korang okay pula.. Orang berlari bayar cukai ke? Besar punya bahalol menyusahkan orang.

[𝕲𝖑𝖔𝖘𝖘 𝕬𝖓𝖌𝖊𝖑𝖊𝖘°‧🫧⋆.ೃ࿔*:･ @asspressso]

@faith_aad_ I will never understand not loving your partner enough to give them the best version of you while youre married