Depression is the only illness where people expect you to keep performing while you die inside. if it bled, they’d care. if it screamed, they’d listen. But because it’s quiet, they call you lazy, dramatic, or ungrateful. That’s not just cruel it’s societal gaslighting.
The reason so many adults with ADHD love background white noise, low-fidelity music, or ambient audio while working isn't for distraction, it's giving the chaotic, wandering 20% of your brain something to play with so the remaining 80% can actually concentrate.
One thing I cannot tolerate at this big grown age is someone who acts like cause and effect doesn’t exist. Yes, your actions caused this outcome, so why are you standing there shocked and playing the victim.
DO NOT invite me to housewarming parties, weddings, baby showers, graduations, etc... if you don’t include me in cookouts, coffee breaks, movie dates, girls night or any other gatherings. it’s so offensive to think someone wants to dish out money on your life milestones without actually including them in your life progressions.
I need the girls to get DISGUSTED by a man never buying flowers, planning dates, building a bond, investing in & pouring love + effort into a good hearted woman that deserves it. GET DISGUSTED.
Normalize the idea of not pressuring people to choose you. if someone, whether family or friend, feels perfectly fine without you in their life, let them have that freedom.