USA have tactical balance, lots of quality, lots of athleticism, a great culture, & some key difference makers in chaotic/transitional game-states (Adams, McKennie, Robinson, Tillman, Pulisic, Balogun).
That also elevates those who are not on that level around them (Dest, Ream).
They can beat anyone in this World Cup based on this showing, although we will certainly need to see them against sterner opposition.
This game has almost exclusively consisted of the USA sustaining pressure because Paraguay are not pressing high and cannot get out because of USA’s counter-press. They are also not building but when they go long they are coming out second best in the duels. The difference in athleticism is stark.
They put 17 people, married an average of 21 years, into a brain scanner and showed them a photo of their spouse. The same parts of the brain lit up that fire when a teenager has their first crush. Two decades together, and the chemistry was still going off like fireworks.
The study ran at Stony Brook in 2011. What changes after 20 years is the anxiety. That panic of not knowing if they love you back, the wondering, the checking. All of that fades. The pull toward them stays.
So that tells you what old love looks like in the brain. It doesn’t tell you how a couple gets there.
A marriage researcher named John Gottman has spent 40 years on that question. He films couples arguing in his lab at the University of Washington and predicts whether they’ll divorce. He gets it right 93.6% of the time, from 15 minutes of footage. More than 3,000 couples now.
He watches the two-second moments between sentences. The pauses. That’s where the prediction lives. The fights themselves matter less.
His go-to example: your wife is staring out the window and says, look at that bird. You glance up and say, oh wow. Or you keep scrolling on your phone. That tiny choice, that little reach for your attention, is what he calls a bid.
He watched newlyweds in his lab and followed them for six years. The couples who were still married had responded to each other’s bids 86 times out of 100. The couples who divorced had responded 33 out of 100. Same money fights. Same in-laws. Same dishes in the sink. The one thing that was different was the bird.
This part stopped me. Gottman found that 69% of the things every couple fights about are problems that never get solved. The chores. The money. His mother. Whose family they spend Christmas with. The arguments repeat for 50 years. Happy couples and unhappy couples have roughly the same list of problems. The happy ones learned to argue about that list without contempt. The eye roll. The sigh. The little smile that says you are pathetic. Gottman calls contempt the sulfuric acid of relationships. He says it’s the single biggest sign that a marriage is over.
When you see two old people asleep on each other on a plane, the forgiveness in that picture is real. They have absorbed thousands of small failures by now. There is something quieter underneath the forgiveness, though. Decades ago, one of them said look at that bird. The other one looked up.
This story of Granit Xhaka’s upbringing is guaranteed to pull on your heart strings 😭❤️
‘We never forget where we come from.’
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@CBSSportsGolazo Henry stopped Kate from pushing the repetitive narrative of Micah being the class clown with not many accolades. Henry recognised he is always put on a massive pedestal and elevated his co hosts be on the same level. Leaders don't always have to lead from the front ☯️