@Tekeee Late 20's is the first real start.
Before that, you where just following your childhood believe system.
You are not starting all over again, you are just starting with the real you in charge.
The sooner you accept that your dream life is going to cost you, the better.
You're going to pay with time and money and it's going to take 10x more effort than you thought.
Can we talk about when God randomly changes your desires? You wake up one day and suddenly you lose your taste for all the things you used to do, say, wear, and even the people you used to be around. You want something different, something better, and you think something’s wrong the whole time. Meanwhile, He’s just growing you, maturing you, and shaping you into who He wants you to be. It’s the wilderness season, but it prepares you for the Promised Land.
I’ve come to realize adulting makes you crave genuine companionship weather in a bestfriend or lover. you just want to have one person you can rely on through it all, nobody should have to through these things alone.
I’m going to leave you with this tonight.
This lady on TikTok said she stopped praying from a survival place and started praying from a place of power. She said God doesn’t need you begging but he needs us believing! WHEW LORD!
Immediately someone else is in my space or I'm in theirs, my routine goes to shit. A lot of the things I do when I'm by myself will feel performative if someone else witnessed them, so I just don't do them.
I don't know who needs to hear this, but GET UP. Ask God to breathe His spirit back into you. You've been lying dormant for far too long. Ask Him to restore your creativity, your purpose, your joy, your love, your health, and your sound mind. You've slept long enough in depression, anxiety, overthinking, bitterness, loneliness, grief, brokenness, financial stress, abandonment wounds, relationship trauma, and destructive habits. Today is the last day. GET UP! Get up for your future self. Get up for your kids. Get up for the dreams God placed inside you. Get up and take your life back.
I’m gonna get yelled at for saying this… but a lot of women are single because they haven’t met a man who’s better at being a man than they already are.
Every country has an energy. And that energy rewires you whether you notice it or not. People move to Japan and become minimal. People move to Mexico and their entire relationship with time softens. People move to New York and suddenly they can't sit still. Your personality is far more malleable than you think. We treat it like something fixed, but new surroundings give you new defaults. New pace. New habits. New values absorbed through proximity instead of effort. You're not just the average of the 5 people closest to you. You're the average of the 5 places, the 5 routines, and the 5 inputs you're exposed to most. Your commute shapes you. The weather shapes you. Every space you occupy is voting on who you become. That's why I believe choosing where you live is one of the most important decisions you'll ever make. More important than your job title. Maybe more important than your five-year plan. Because the place shapes the plan. The place shapes your energy, your habits, your relationships, your default state. Get the place right and half of the other decisions start making themselves. Get it wrong and you'll fight yourself every day.
@_sorrengailll My nails are done because I earned it. My rent is paid because I planned it. My savings grow because I respect myself.
It’s not about what title I hold.
It’s about the standard I hold.
I don’t need rescuing. I need respect.
That's how your spirit should be like.
Tiktok is full of people complaining about Detty December in Lagos
But if I spend $5000 on a ticket to Lagos the LAST thing I am doing is a lamentation video
Im enjoying that place BY FORCE
You will be tempted to show that you are doing well, but it is important you resist the urge to perform for an audience that don’t matter - and maybe isn’t even watching
I hate hypeman culture so much. Asides the fact that they’re so unnecessarily loud, they’re always saying the most demeaning, offensive things. I can’t always deal.