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[Sam Ekpewheni @MadProfitGuy]

One business concept destroys many startups.

It's called Working Capital.

When you decide to start a business, you prepare what is known as Capital Expenditure.

In simple terms, that's the money needed to set up the business.

You expend it on things like:

Shop rent.
Business registration.
Furniture.
Shelves.
Equipment.
Signboards.
Renovation.

If you have all these covered, it feels like you're ready to start.

But...

This is where many entrepreneurs run into trouble.

They spend almost all their money on opening the business...

...and forget to budget for the running of the business.

Always remember something I've said before:

Every new business has the characteristics of a failed business.

Why?

Because for the first few moments you open your doors, you probably have very few customers.

Maybe none.

Very few sales.

Maybe none.

But your expenses don't wait.

And your staff won't say, "Don't pay us until customers start coming."

Electricity bills will come, and your equipment may need servicing.

The business is breathing...

...even if it isn't earning yet.

This is where Working Capital comes in.

Working Capital is the money you deliberately set aside to keep the business alive while it's still finding its feet for the next 3 to 6 months.

Think of it as the fuel in your car.

Buying a car is one thing.

Having enough fuel to drive it every day is another.

The same applies to business.

You should not only ask how much it costs to open this business...

Equally ask:

"If I don't make meaningful sales for the next three to six months, can this business still survive?"

If the answer is no...

...then your startup budget is incomplete.

Don't budget only for opening the doors.

Budget for keeping the doors open.

Because businesses rarely fail because they couldn't start.

Many fail because they ran out of money before they had enough time to succeed.
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See You Again Next Time.

I'm The Mad Profit Guy.

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Intimacy cannot Fully Exist Where Honesty Is Missing
Real intimacy is not created only through attraction, chemistry, affection, or time together. Emotional intimacy is built through openness, honesty, vulnerability, emotional safety, and truthful communication.
People feel closest when they feel emotionally known.
That means: feeling heard, understood, emotionally safe, accepted honestly, able to express deeper feelings without fear

When difficult conversations are consistently avoided, parts of the relationship remain emotionally hidden. Needs stay buried. Hurt stays unresolved. Fear stays internalized.
Over time, couples may still love each other while no longer feeling deeply connected.
That disconnect becomes painful because human beings naturally crave emotional closeness, reassurance, understanding, and safety within relationships.
Avoidance slowly blocks those experiences.
Intimacy deepens when two people become willing to stay emotionally honest even when conversations feel uncomfortable. That honesty creates trust because both people begin learning:
“We can talk about hard things without losing each other.”
That realization changes relationships profoundly.

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

The relationship between emotional life and the body is real, but it doesn’t affect everyone the same way. Some people carry significant emotional weight and weather it better than others, for reasons involving genetics, nervous system baseline, social support, and luck.
Every intervention here works in the same way. Each one reduces a source of ongoing stress. Once you’ve acknowledged the burden, your body doesn’t have to keep preparing for it.
The unsent letter, the one honest relationship, the scheduled worry window, the named fear, the acknowledged loss, the acknowledged uncertainty, the spoken shame—each one eases the pressure on the systems that regulate cortisol, sleep, recovery, energy, and mood.
Your body doesn’t need you to have everything resolved. It needs to know you’re no longer carrying it alone. Name the burden. That’s where it starts to lose its hold.

[Effervescent @effyowan]

@GbengaWemimo Glory! Glory! Glory! Congratulations 🎉

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

As Told To Say

April is The Month of The Chariots of Fire

-A month of sudden approvals, promotions, elevations, and unexpected opportunities
-A month of symphonies and spiritual songs from the throne of Grace
-A month of sudden breakouts of the spirit in unexpected places
-A month of sights and visions of faith to convince the unbelieving into believing
-A month of sudden stillness in places of great noise and chaos
-A month of supernatural eruptions of power and ascensions by the Spirit
-A month of refreshing and restoration for emotional turmoil and upheavals
-A month of sight beyond words and unspoken words, creating tangible ideas and supernatural innovations
-A month of doors and gates opening of their own accord due to realmic interactions
-A month of leaps and rewards for those who take them
-A month of riding the wind and running with Horses and chariots of fire
-A month of unexpected departures and unexpected arrivals from realm to realm
-A month of intangibles unseating the tangible, making the things that be not, things that are

The appearances of the chariots shall be manifested in their full dimensions across all the earth
Ezekiel 1, 2 Kings 2:11, 2 Kings 6:17, 2 Kings 13:14, Psalm 68:17, Psalm 104:3

During our annual Night of Glory for the month of March 2026, I suddenly became overwhelmed with the presence of God, so I had to close the service early. I knew I was going into a trance because of how my body began to react with urgency to the power of the Holy Spirit.
I knew it would be a journey into journeys, a sight into sight, and it would be beyond the depth I had ever been to before in my journey with God

I barely stumbled into bed, with my heart racing, with tongues being spoken without words

Early this morning, I had a vision; I saw an angel of the Lord, and He took me out of the earth realm

I went into a higher altitude in the atmosphere, it felt like riding a hurricame but instead of riding it horizontally, it was a vertical journey. Then we got to a point, and we rested. I could feel all the energy of the wind I was riding beneath my feet as its energy flowed from it through my body and back into it as we journeyed as one entity.

While I stood in the middle of the gulf between heaven and the earth, an angel called to me from a far distance above me. He said This is the depth that was promised, but you must adapt to it, so run now.”

So we took off, and we were moving at about 500 miles an hour. It was like riding a skate, but moving so fast and without any fear of injury. Everything was speeding past in a blur, and also with clarity

I noticed we were racing through the nations of the earth, but not from within the earth. It felt like a projection of nations, communities, states, and peoples in real life on earth being reflected in this realm while we raced through them

I saw China, Malaysia, Singapore, India, and Iran. Iraq, Kuwait, Europe, Africa, Asia, and North and South America

I asked the Lord what this meant, and He said to me, “I will light up the nations, I will illuminate the Cities, I will bring knowledge to the people with irrefutable proof, I will do this with speed, and I will do this with power.”

Then I came into a gathering of lights, i couldn’t see their faces but they were all in human form, not angels and they were full of light from head to toe. The Lord said to me. “These are the lights I will flood the nations with. I have prepared them as shining lights and fire. They will bring understanding and they will make the altars waiting for fire to burn by my Spirit.”

And that’s when the word of the Lord came so strong that there is a chariot of fire about to take you from where you are to your place of Destiny.
I want to take you to the book of 2nd Kings 2:11.

“As they were walking along and talking together, suddenly a chariot of fire and horses of fire appeared and separated the two of them, and Elijah went up to heaven in a whirlwind.”

In other words, God is speaking about the entourage of heaven, the brigade-in-parade of heaven. The chariot of fire came between Elijah and his protege, Elisha, and separated them as this chariot is the glory that separates realms between the physical and the supernatural.
It separated Elijah from Elisha before Elijah was taken to heaven by a whirlwind

Everybody is going somewhere but we are not all going to the same places.

We are all going towards different destinations and amazingly the length of your journey determines the type of equipment or vehicle that takes you there. It’s difficult to drive a car from North America to Europe because the journey is really far.

If you are going next street, you can not use a jumbo jet, you might use a bicycle or a scooter; all you need is a tiny piece of equipment. If God is taking you far, the Spirit of God will have to specially prepare the vehicle that will take you there. And the vehicle that will take you to an enviable place of destiny is not the same as what is required to take someone that is going next door. That is why when it comes to your race with God you cannot compare your journey with someone else’s because you might not be heading in the same direction or destination.

Whenever the Spirit of the Lord has earmarked your journey and God wants you to go to places that nobody in your family, generation or community has ever been then the Spirit of God prepares a special kind of vehicle that’s going to take you. God says you cannot go to that destination with a turbo plane or a train or bicycle or even a race car.

God says I will prepare the momentum of the Spirit and it’s going to be upon the chariots of fire.
God never sends his power to maintain your mundane life, God sends power to propel you into his will for your life.

I know that you’ve got your own ideas and program about what you want to do with your life, but God says that’s not where I meet with you, if you are going to really encounter authentic and tangible kingdom power, you have to walk out of your own expectation and submit to God and say “Lord I know I’ve got my own agenda but at this hour, I’m asking that your Spirit take me out of my own system and propel me into God’s agenda for my life”.

Step into the agenda of God and say “Lord, I’ve tried my own program and it has failed but this time I’m going in the power of God, I’m going in the Name of the Lord, I’m going on the wings of the Holy Ghost, I’m going on the chariots of fire, not my will but your will be done in my life. Not my plan but your plan”.

When Jesus came, the disciples were nursing the idea that He came to deliver them from the oppression of the Romans, they tried to make him fit in, they even tried to crown him their king but Jesus said No! I came to establish a higher Kingdom that will continue for millennia and unto eternity.

Christ’s Kingdom is bigger and greater than anything his disciples understood. Christ kept telling them that greatness is coming, destiny is coming, Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither have entered into the heart of man, the things which God hath prepared for them that love him. He told them about a heavenly Kingdom that is not of this world. Jesus tried to show them that the will of God for Him was bigger than what they saw, but they did not see it, they did not understand it.

For you to comprehend God’s purpose for your life, you have to go to the realm of the Spirit and get what the Spirit is saying.

Human capacity unaided by the Holy Spirit cannot fathom the expansiveness of your divine destiny. People who love you cannot comprehend your life by what they think of you. You have to hear God. What is God saying about your life? God says “I am about to bless you with a blessing that will intimidate the devil”. It’s not by might nor by power but by the Spirit.
In 1 Corinthians 2:10, the Bible says,“These are the things God has revealed to us by his Spirit. The Spirit searches all things, even the deep things of God”.

How could the chariot of fire, come and whisk a man physically, while he is alive, out of the earth? Deep things! How can you become the head of a business conglomerate within a few months of starting out in your career?

How can you start a ministry from your sitting room and take it global successfully within a year?

How can you invent startups that takes over the world of innovation and technology by the storm within a few months?

How does your name become a global name and your brand become a global brand when you were relatively unknown at the beginning of the year?

How do you meet and get married to the love of your life within a few days and yet find great joy and happiness in the union several years later?

How do you come into fruitful and productive relationships as a minister?

Deep things!
How can you become the head of an International Agency and people you don’t even know are serving you? Deep things!
Your parents, family, and many people around you may like you and wish well for you, but when it comes to deep and big things, it comes from the Spirit. Not your certificates, not the color of your skin, not your education, but from God. God says to tell you, I’m about to do deep things in your life in this season, and it’s going to overwhelm you. Forget about thinking, just receive it because this is bigger than your thoughts. What eyes have not seen, what ears have not heard, what has never happened to anybody. He’s getting ready to manifest that level of His glory in your life.
Deep things, Deep things, Deep things! When it comes to the journey of Destiny, it comes from the Spirit. That is why you are not like everybody else. That is why you get misunderstood and criticized sometimes.

You can’t get deep things while living a shallow life; you cannot encounter deep things on a surface-level faith. You must be deep in God!

Do not follow the bandwagon. Deep things come to those who dig deep.

-GSW-

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

So many married people have emotionally immature parents.

Parents who do not understand what it means to allow their children to have a life outside of them

They must call their son or daughter every day without fail.

When their son or daughter gets married, they must find a way to blackmail the spouse into feeding their insecurities shamelessly

They won't allow their adult child to live like an adult. They must monitor, poke their noses everywhere, and stamp their opinions on every action their child takes.

Imagine a mother who says her son must marry into her three-bedroom flat
Or parents who insist their children must marry into the family house

So many ladies would come to me crying that their husbands married them into the family house, and they could not have their privacy as a couple as a result of this.

It is natural for children to grow up and leave the nest, but in some parents' reality, they must carry the nest and follow their children around with it as if they are tortoises or snails

What is a married woman doing on the phone with her father or mother for an hour every day?

What is a married man doing on the phone with his father or mother for an hour every day?

Mummy is checking in
Daddy is checking in

I got a case last November.
The marriage has been on for ten years, and the son-in-law was doing very well financially for nine years. As soon as he got into a bit of financial trouble, the wife's parent swooped in and took their daughter and the children away

They told him he can have her back when he gets on his feet.

A challenge that the couple ought to face together and bond over, while the parents would observe them from afar and pray for them

The worst ones are the ones who make themselves the center of attention in their children's marriages

Tell your husband to call me
Your husband has not called me since yesterday
Is your husband avoiding me?
Why has your husband not called me?
Your husband is rude and disrespectful. I have been waiting on his call for over a week...

They complain and complain until their daughter makes a fight out of the issue with her husband

Imagine your son and daughter-in-law fighting over the parent of either of them's cravings for attention and relevance.

In many cases, the son or daughter travels abroad to get rid of the excesses of his or her parents

Imagine your daughter having a baby and sharing the good news with you, and instead of congratulating her, you take offence that she did not inform you when she was pregnant

You then call your daughter's husband and threaten him that since he and your daughter have labelled you a witch by not carrying you along, you will prove to them that you are a witch indeed.

Husband and wife started running helter-skelter for prayers of protection against witchcraft.

In another case, the mother of the wife called the mother of the husband and accused her of monopolizing the attention and affection of his daughter.

I have seen mothers who demand that their children must place them on a monthly salary, and when the salary is late, the phones of both the child and his or her spouse would experience no rest

Most poor people's only hope for their old age is their children.
They hold on to them emotionally like a blind man to his walking stick

All the "love" they claim they have for keeping in touch with their children is really about meeting their selfish needs.

When parents are financially independent, they have better things to do with their time than shadowing their children and bugging their children's spouses with a cry for affection and attention.

Let the branches of your tree grow outwards so that it can bear fruits

-GSW-

[Effervescent @effyowan]

POWERFUL

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Quote with the first word you see

[Effervescent @effyowan]

@Hybrid_Ola There should be severe punishments for this kind of demonic lie!!!

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

SEE WITH THE EYES OF THE SPIRIT.

If you're constantly filled with the Spirit, you'll find that your body will be changing because of the impact of the divine life on your physical body. There'll be an unction of the Holy Ghost on your body.
But if you have received the Holy Ghost and you are not serious with the Spirit and you're living a natural life, a normal human life, then the same things that happen to sinners will happen to you.

You find yourself running here and there, looking for deliverance when all you truly need is a renewal of your mind

[Matthew Coast @MatthewCoast]

How is she supposed to fix her ATTITUDE if you keep doing the same things that upset her. The way you treat a woman is how she is going to act. You can’t expect peace when all you bring is pain.

[Docta Funto P (Deborah) @OlufuntoP]

“Roll your works upon the Lord [commit and trust them wholly to Him; He will cause your thoughts to become agreeable to His will, and] so shall your plans (thoughts) be established and succeed.”
Proverbs 16:3 AMPC

[Docta Funto P (Deborah) @OlufuntoP]

When you can’t take it any more

Isaac said to him, You’ll live far from Earth’s bounty, remote from Heaven’s dew. You’ll live by your sword, hand-to-mouth, and you’ll serve your brother. But when you can’t take it any more you’ll break loose and run free.”
Genesis 27:39-40 MSG

[Effervescent @effyowan]

@toyin_oema @GbengaWemimo Lemme goan baff now now! 😄

[Effervescent @effyowan]

@OlumideAgbosasa @GbengaWemimo 😂😂😂 Troublemaker of Africa!

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Control Is Key In Toxic Relationships

When people are in a toxic relationship, they often claim they had no idea their partner was toxic until it was too late or until things escalated to verbal and physical abuse
By this time, they would have invested so much in the relationship that they would find themselves unable to walk away because of the time and other resources invested
It is, however, easy to identify toxicity from the subtle signs of control a toxic partner, who is naturally insecure, would exhibit as part of his or her identity or characteristics

Right from the outset, a toxic partner would make it clear he or she does not need the other partner because he or she is independent and can live his or her life without the other person
This outrightly makes the other person insecure and gives the impression of “You are the one that needs me or you are the one that came to me or you are the one who came to trouble me or you are the one who came to disturb my peace or you are the one who came to insert yourself into my life as I was doing well on my own” impression.
What this does is create a power dynamic or imbalance in the place of negotiation between you and the person
He or she is the one with the power to give you conditions by which you can relate or keep in contact with him or her.
While these psychological negotiations unfolded, the toxic partner remained in control of all the dynamics, presenting a picture of “I can do without you,” or “You are the one demanding to be in my life,” or “I am fine all by myself.”

After you have pushed and chased for a while, the toxic partner then gives you his or her terms and conditions for the relationship to work out.
Usually, by this time, you are so grateful that he or she is considering being in your life that everything he or she states would be acceptable to you.

I am a religious person, and there is a way I want you to dress…
I don’t want you relating to certain kinds of friends and relatives
This is how I am, and you will have to accept me as I am because I will never change (Toxic people never see anything wrong with how they are, and when they do, they do not invest in changing for the better; rather they find anyone who can accept them as they are and settle with such a person in a relationship that guarantees their control over the person at some personal sacrifice which is usually material in nature.

For example, most toxic men and women settle for partners with low financial power whom they can provide for almost exclusively
The security they derive from providing for this person lies in the fact that they know the person would never consider leaving them, even if they exhibited the full range of their toxicity, because he or she have no financial power to walk away from the relationship
This also gives them the perfect excuse to play victim when the relationship goes sour due to their toxicity.
They just flip the script and focus on all the material sacrifices they had been making in the relationship as a pointer to the fact that they settled for less because of their loving and understanding nature, which their victim has never reciprocated nor deserved.
Everybody would then pity them and feel sorry for them, giving them the social validation they craved after breaking up, assuring them they are not the ones at fault, but they know in their heart that the material gifts they provided were in exchange for their wide range of bad behavioural traits and compromises, which the other party had to tolerate.

On the practical side, the toxic partner does everything to ensure their victim does not attain any form of financial independence. They know that as soon as their partner becomes financially independent, they would have no other value to offer in the relationship, and their partner would walk away from them.
The male toxic partner hides behind “If a woman earns more than you or as much as you, she will no longer respect you,” and for this reason, they will do everything to sabotage, peg, limit, and prevent their female partners from becoming all they could be in life and career.
The female toxic partner would hide behind “When a man gets money, he will womanize. Even if he was not the kind of person to look at other women or stray from the right path, women will not let him be because of the kind of money he has at his disposal. So she would do everything in her power, even pray or go spiritual, to ensure that he does not prosper.

If your love for your partner becomes so insecure that you become intimidated by his or her success financially, you are a toxic person.
A good partner does not put himself or his interests first. Even if it would cost him or her the relationship in the long run, he or she must ensure that while their partner was in that relationship with them, he or she made great strides in all their endeavours in life.

Control in relationships is when one partner uses manipulation, intimidation, or coercion to dominate the other's actions, thoughts, or emotions, creating an unhealthy power imbalance through tactics like isolation, constant criticism, and financial abuse (Financial abuse involves controlling a victim's ability to acquire, use, and maintain financial resources. Those who are victimized financially may be prevented from working, or the abuser may attempt to control how they use the money they earn or own) jealousy, gaslighting (Gaslighting in relationships is a manipulative tactic where one partner makes the other doubt their own reality, memory, or sanity, making them feel confused, anxious, and dependent, often by denying events, twisting facts, or making the victim feel they are "crazy," ultimately gaining control by eroding the victim's self-trust. It's a form of emotional abuse that distorts perception, making you question what's real and what isn’t, or guilt-tripping, ultimately damaging the partner's self-esteem and independence. It's a form of emotional abuse often disguised as care, but it stems from a desire for power, not love, and can escalate to physical abuse.

Other forms of Toxic Control include:
Isolation: Cutting you off from friends, family, or support systems.
Jealousy & Possessiveness: Constant accusations, checking your phone/social media.
Criticism & Belittling: Constant put-downs that undermine your confidence.
Guilt-Tripping & Manipulation: Using "if you loved me" or "you made me feel" to get their way.
Gaslighting: Twisting reality so you question your own memory or sanity.
Financial Control: Dictating how you spend money or restricting access to funds.
Silent Treatment/Withholding Affection: Using love as a reward or punishment.
Micromanaging, dictating what you wear, where you go, or how you spend your time.
Threats & Intimidation: Veiled or overt threats of harm or abandonment.

Please Note this:
Control comes from fear and a need to dominate, often masked as protection or love.
Care comes from love and seeks to empower, wanting the best for you.
Healthy relationships are built on respect, trust, and freedom, not unequal power dynamics.
Recognizing these subtle tactics is crucial, as controlling behavior often starts small and gradually erodes a partner's sense of self, making it a dangerous precursor to abuse.

PS: If you are a product of a toxic relationship or toxic marriage, you are most likely toxic too because it is infectious. You need to heal. Don’t insist that anybody who wants to be with you must take you as you are in your damaged state. There is yet a balm in Gilead, and this balm is effective in all its ways if you will allow Him to deal with you at your core.
The first thing you need to do is a do a self-analysis and evaluation
Do I have a care approach towards my relationships, or do I have a control approach to my relationships
Am I uncomfortable with my partner’s success, or do I genuinely push my partners to do better in life
Am I jealous, insecure, manipulative, and feel the need to control my partner instead of dealing with him or her with a plain heart full of great expectations as an individual?
Am I gracious to those who love me or do I feel I ought to impose on that emotion and stress it until the person who loves me begins to feel the heat or burden of loving me negatively
If the answers you have for these questions and more are in the affirmative
You need to give your life to Jesus and ask the Holy Spirit to come into your heart
You need to learn how to love from the source of true love itself
You need to unlearn many things and heal from the trauma of the past
Within a few months you will be as good as new, and if you choose never to walk in the old path, your new path will be one that is laced with glory and majestic splendour

Glory be to God.

-GSW-
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[Effervescent @effyowan]

@GbengaWemimo @ElizabethUshie2 😂😂😂

[Gbenga Samuel-Wemimo @GbengaWemimo]

Good Secrets Vs. Evil Secrets

Doing things in secret is neither good nor bad.
Some people just like to keep their matters to themselves and not announce them to the world.
Some prefer to announce everything and see no value in keeping anything secret.
Good secrets, however, do not stay secret for too long; it has an expiry date
Evil Secrets stay perpetually in the abyss; there is no expiry date for it, and there is no time when it can come out to be celebrated.
It is why I hate every form of evil secret.
More than the secret, the lack of consideration of those who expect you to keep their evil secret, out of consideration for them, without any regard for the fact that they have ultimately made you an accessory after the fact, and ultimately a partaker of their evil plans.
You can do your evil without sharing the details with anyone; in fact, that will be the true definition of a secret.

Anything known to more than you and which you have to make people swear to keep from divulging is evil in all its forms
David slept with Bathsheba; it was evil, but it was secret, and he got away with it
Weeks later, Bathsheba sent him a message that she had missed her period.
David switched from checkers to chess
He felt all he had to do was bring Uriah back home from the war front to have sex with Bathsheba so that they could commit paternity fraud and give the baby to Bathsheba's husband
Uriah came home from the warfront and refused to sleep with his wife out of devotion to the army, even when he was pilled with wine, he refused to sleep with Bathsheba.
Bathsheba sent a message to David, declaring that her husband did not sleep with her and she was still pregnant
David decided to do the needful.
He gave Uriah a letter to deliver to Joab
The content of the letter instructed Joab to place Uriah right in the thick of battle.
By so doing, Joab guaranteed Uriah's death.
Joab became complicit in the death of Uriah by obeying the king.
The King did not consider what this would do to Joab.
Many of us do not consider the implications that the secrets you ask people to keep have on them
We only think of our own selfish needs when we entrust people with secrets
If it is a secret, why can't you know it by yourself and go to your grave with it
Why would you rob people of their deniability in the name of sharing something you should have kept to yourself?
Evil things fester in secret
Evil things done by one or two people, only to co-opt others into it as a test of their loyalty, is brazenly unfair.
People must live their lives free from guilt and the burdens of unnecessary knowledge

Joab lost all respect for David after the death of Uriah.
Joab had always been hot-headed, and when he killed Abner several years before, David cried and screamed for all of Israel to hear.
The same David who declared himself innocent of guilt in the case of the death of Abner was now the one who ordered the death of Uriah through the same Joab.
David's action emboldened Joab, because he felt he now had something to dangle over the king, and it reflected in his behavioural patterns until he was killed.
Secrets change people.
It changes how people see people
It alters perspectives and affects convictions
It is like a seed you planted and kept away from the sunlight; the plant will grow, but you cannot predict the kind of fruits it will bear.
The worst kinds of secrets are the ones that you didn't choose to know, but somehow you were told, and the person who told you then says if you dare divulge it, you will die.
What is it that warrants that kind of harassment?
It is your secret
I didn't beg to know it
I mind my business and keep my nose out of people's issues
You then choose to burden me with it, only to tell me I will die if I dare to share it.
You should have kept your mouth shut and died with the secret if you truly love and care for those you told about it.

I was at a funeral service in 2012
I was the one who bought the cow used for this funeral as a gift to the widow of the man who died, to support the family
I drove behind the truck carrying the cow all the way from Kara, after the long bridge in Lagos, to the house of the family in mourning deep in the Lagos mainland.
The butchers who would help kill the car also rode in the truck with it
When we got there, they started making preparations to kill the cow when a sudden noise erupted
A lady in her thirties and her mother came out of nowhere to claim half of the cow
I was with the widow, consoling her and sharing with her the news that I had bought her a cow to help feed the crowd that had gathered for the funeral rites.
Naturally, the widow should remain indoors, but when the noise persisted, she had to see what was going on, and I followed her
Immediately, the widow saw them, she turned around and returned to her apartment
She said to me, "My husband has a daughter outside the marriage. As soon as he died, I took all the documents pertaining to our properties and kept them with a friend.
I knew they would show their shameless faces, but I didn't know they would come fighting for meat."
I was shocked
The man was a model Christian, someone I respected very much and took almost as a father.
I would have respected him more if he had drawn that daughter near and dared the consequences of doing so while he was alive
He kept it a secret, and when it came out, it was a bitter pill for everyone involved to swallow
The secret forever altered how I saw him, and I hated that.

PS: I evolved a policy since then, that I will live my life on my terms and will own my actions with all my chest
I will be so successful that whatever I do, I will be accountable only to God and myself.
I especially disliked the hypocrisy encouraged by Christian doctrines and churches, which makes a man unable to own his mistakes and still be respected in society.
The man who made mistakes or did wrong things and owned up to it, in my book, is more honourable than the one who covered his misdeed just so people could see him as someone he truly was not.
I cannot say I have always taken the right decisions in my life, but I can say that everything I have done in my life, I can take a microphone and share them boldly without a care as to what anybody thinks or says.
I have earned for myself that level of independence, and I thrive in it.

We are coming to Abuja for the GSWMI Northern Convention on Saturday, 8th November 2025.
Please don't miss it.
Thank you

-GSW-

[Osaru Alesha Alile @OsaruAlile]

As Told To Say – November is the month of New Beginnings:https://t.co/VW8YywTJmC @GbengaWemimo 🙏🏾🔑🌱✅🙌🏾

[Effervescent @effyowan]

@OsaruAlile @GbengaWemimo I am excellent and full of glory, a perfection of beauty! I walk into my new beginnings! Glorryyyyyy!!!!!

[Effervescent @effyowan]

@KelOnovo I know this trick. She will resent peanut butter after this episode. Or it may take a very long time before she puts it in her mouth again. 😄