You can wake up one day, and just decide your circumstances and situation are completely within your control. This gives you the power to change it.
It won’t be easy.
People you love will call you selfish, say you’ve changed. Former friends will say you’re too good for them, hurl insults behind your back.
There are a lot of negatives in your life from the act of taking yourself seriously and changing your life. That’s the unspoken part and why it’s so difficult for people to implement.
You need to be ready for that. Be prepared for the disdain of your close friends, family members. I’ll be the one to tell you though, it is worth it. The pain of change is nothing compared to the regret of staying the same, forever.
This is one of those things that you think
“Nah, I ain’t doing allat.”
Until you actually do it.
Just once. Try it out. You will most likely never stop doing it. It’s addicting. For most of you, you’ve probably NEVER intentionally self reflected before.
Insane ROI.
In the least *woo woo*, spiritual, hippie nonsensical way (I’m trying to appeal to a specific audience here)….
You need to be doing some sort of reflection at the end of your day.
10 minutes. Alone. No sound. Reflect on how you acted, what you said, what you accomplished.
This take will never be proven, but I hope this burns into people’s memories to remember decades from now.
This is a non-issue. The population declining would be an unbelievably good thing for the Earth. And even so, humans will repopulate it anyway, eventually.
The only cataclysm happening is Africa and India continuing to increase by the billions and running the world out of resources, whether through receiving aid from western liberals or migration to developed countries.
@AvantPrince_ Wow. Responsibility, burden, ambition-Maxx. Reject the life of a male only living for himself. Shoulder as many tasks as you can, and then some. Your opinions are only as valuable as how much they have been tested against the gauntlet that is the responsible life.
Be good at your profession. Create systems to solve recurring problems. Leave everything better than how it was when you entered the scene. Embody excellence. Reflect on your day. Understand thoroughly what you can and can’t change. Curate your inputs, music tv shows movies social media page. Strive to build a network. Know a guy who is an expert in some useful way. Become that expert to somebody. Be generous with cash. Be lavish with items used daily, and frugal with products used once. Be organized. Take inventory, check your expenses, keep up to date with your account and passwords. Keep your room and house clean. Spend money on things that reduce friction. Always strive to increase your responsibility tolerance. Never get entrenched with dogma. Learn something from everybody. Realize life goes in stages, the prodigal youth, the workhorse new guy, the professional in their prime, the wise former shark. You know what you need to do. Just execute.
We all have our own opinion of ourselves.
Of who and what we think we are.
But truly? You’re biased to hell and back.
Too close to not be blind.
A fish spends its whole life in water without knowing what an ocean is. It’s too close. Blinded by proximity.
A knife, by itself, has no idea how sharp it is.
A knife can only know itself through that which it cuts.
You can only know yourself through direct experience with the world.
Are you mentally tough? Yes or no?
The only way you can come to a non-insane answer reflective of actual reality, is to point to an experience indicative of being IN or OUT of alignment with mental toughness.
Multiple experiences with the same consistent result = real answer, real description
In many ways
You don’t exist
You cannot be *known*
You can only be *experienced*
And while we don’t care about what others think about us..
We DO (should) care about how we’re being perceived, and the effect we are having on others. Not from a position of craving acceptance and validation. But purely from a standpoint of strategy and effectiveness.
Are we being intentional?
Is our life a series of successive objectives being met? Goals being reached? Are you awake? Are you consciously choosing your life?
This is no different.
How are you being perceived?
= one of the most useful metrics to judge oneself, is in the quality manner and style with which people introduce you to others.
AS AN EXPERIMENT:
For a period of time...
Don’t call yourself anything.
Show, don’t tell.
Observer how you are represented to others.
A knife can only know itself through that which it cuts.
@low_t_male Criticism is correctly pointing out failures with sufficient evidence, and offering pointed useful solutions.
Leftism does not do that. It’s just incessant whining and victimizing, constantly appealing to victimhood.
@irgarner >academics
>”don’t need to research”
Saying anything is off-limits for researching or asking questions is how nothing ever gets better.
I’m completely on your side. Ever since Elon started posting about it, there’s been fake outrage, fake caring about this issue from a lot of right-wing leaning accounts. This issue is not only not a bad thing, it’s actively a good thing. Way too many people on Earth.
The actual issue though is that the math says human population doesn’t slowly decline when we are below replacement rate. It falls off a cliff instead, which of course could have some issues within the economy.
Here we go.
1. The fact that videos like these take an extensive amount of writing to break down and analyze is, itself, a point to the no-responsibility crowd. I will admit, on the surface, this life seems pretty good.
2. I think videos like this, hearing about people who live lives like this, are marketed only to people who are drowning in responsibility. It only appeals to people who currently feel like they have no freedom. Because, if you did have freedom, you would realize how unappetizing this life is. This type of life is antithetical to how humans are wired: to make progress, innovate, and improve their surroundings. Your mind will turn on itself in times of excess, with no problems to solve. I say this anecdotally. The times of my life where I had little responsibility SEEMED nice on the surface. But, they actually were dreadful. I am most happy when I have problems to solve.
3. From a societal view, this is also bad. Whether or not you want this life, and think that it’s good, there is one fact you have to accept: this life is only possible living in a world where other people HAVE jobs, HAVE debt, HAVE responsibilities, to provide and uphold the amenities and society you are parasiting off of. People to operate the businesses that make you food, make your surfboard, keep up the beach, make the house you live in, provide the electricity you use, etc, etc. Nobody who makes these videos is a true “off-the-grid”, self sustaining person. They rely on
others toiling so they can loiter. Which, is fine, if you openly admit and accept that. But it is no doubt, you are a parasite on society. To take and take and benefit, but to never give back.
Maybe I am wired differently. I am guessing most of you reading this are. But WE do not accept living on a beach, doing nothing, as a life worth living. We give back to society, we CREATE society, we have kids, we birth the next generation. We are NOT parasites.
“Bad test taker” might be the single biggest cope to ever come out of organized schooling. Not a meme. I’ve heard the Daniel Tosh bit.
Not succeeding on tests, but self-proclaiming that you “know all the info” and you are “smart”, is because of a simple condition: confusing memorization with understanding.
This can be best explained with an example. In my hard engineering classes, there were two cohorts of students (we had a small amount of people in these classes).
One cohort would book a private library room, bring their little marker and eraser set, and rework homework problems until 2 in the morning.
They would constantly tell me how much they studied. They reworked not only the required homework (which we already did, obviously) but also all the book problems too. There isn’t a single problem left for them to work.
Usually this explanation was in the wake of them failing the test, and not understanding how.
The second cohort.. well, cohort is a loose term. We wouldn’t be together. We didn’t study together. We didn’t organize. We were connected by an innate understanding, I guess.
We would simply reread the book, until we understood the concept. We strove for understanding the underlying mechanism of the concepts we learned about in class.
Show up to test.. 90s to 100%, every time. I would say about 5 of us total.
This isn’t the passive flex about how intelligent I was, how we were. No, I’m not saying that.
But our understanding of what true learning is was objectively correct.
It’s not just memorizing a set of steps to solve a specific, contrived problem when you’re given all the variables.
It’s truly understanding the concept. It’s understanding how you go from point a to point b.
Post is getting long, getting slower and slower to write on my phone (freaking hate that feature about this app), so I’ll end it there.
Hope you college-aged kids understand that.
You’ll never consistently use motivation to create something great.
Much more common, and practical, to fall to the level of systems you have in place.
Creating systems, reducing friction, automation >>>>
Something I struggle to remember, and something that you might be hearing for the first time:
Even if you do everything right, and follow your heart all the time, you will still feel negative emotions.
Sadness, anger, boredom, disappointment. More like those.
They aren’t emotions to be bottled away and never felt. They aren’t blaring lights indicating you are on the wrong path (though persistent depression is arguable).
They are consistent actors in the emotional rollercoaster that is your mind. Pay attention to them, as to why you’re feeling them. But don’t think the sky is falling just because you temporarily feel less than overjoyed.
@IterIntellectus That is great news! Has anyone, outside of Twitter, ever complained the human population was too small?
Go try to visit any National Park!
“Bad test taker” might be the single biggest cope to ever come out of organized schooling. Not a meme. I’ve heard the Daniel Tosh bit.
Not succeeding on tests, but self-proclaiming that you “know all the info” and you are “smart”, is because of a simple condition: confusing memorization with understanding.
This can be best explained with an example. In my hard engineering classes, there were two cohorts of students (we had a small amount of people in these classes).
One cohort would book a private library room, bring their little marker and eraser set, and rework homework problems until 2 in the morning.
They would constantly tell me how much they studied. They reworked not only the required homework (which we already did, obviously) but also all the book problems too. There isn’t a single problem left for them to work.
Usually this explanation was in the wake of them failing the test, and not understanding how.
The second cohort.. well, cohort is a loose term. We wouldn’t be together. We didn’t study together. We didn’t organize. We were connected by an innate understanding, I guess.
We would simply reread the book, until we understood the concept. We strove for understanding the underlying mechanism of the concepts we learned about in class.
Show up to test.. 90s to 100%, every time. I would say about 5 of us total.
This isn’t the passive flex about how intelligent I was, how we were. No, I’m not saying that.
But our understanding of what true learning is was objectively correct.
It’s not just memorizing a set of steps to solve a specific, contrived problem when you’re given all the variables.
It’s truly understanding the concept. It’s understanding how you go from point a to point b.
Post is getting long, getting slower and slower to write on my phone (freaking hate that feature about this app), so I’ll end it there.
Hope you college-aged kids understand that.
Here we go.
1. The fact that videos like these take an extensive amount of writing to break down and analyze is, itself, a point to the no-responsibility crowd. I will admit, on the surface, this life seems pretty good.
2. I think videos like this, hearing about people who live lives like this, are marketed only to people who are drowning in responsibility. It only appeals to people who currently feel like they have no freedom. Because, if you did have freedom, you would realize how unappetizing this life is. This type of life is antithetical to how humans are wired: to make progress, innovate, and improve their surroundings. Your mind will turn on itself in times of excess, with no problems to solve. I say this anecdotally. The times of my life where I had little responsibility SEEMED nice on the surface. But, they actually were dreadful. I am most happy when I have problems to solve.
3. From a societal view, this is also bad. Whether or not you want this life, and think that it’s good, there is one fact you have to accept: this life is only possible living in a world where other people HAVE jobs, HAVE debt, HAVE responsibilities, to provide and uphold the amenities and society you are parasiting off of. People to operate the businesses that make you food, make your surfboard, keep up the beach, make the house you live in, provide the electricity you use, etc, etc. Nobody who makes these videos is a true “off-the-grid”, self sustaining person. They rely on
others toiling so they can loiter. Which, is fine, if you openly admit and accept that. But it is no doubt, you are a parasite on society. To take and take and benefit, but to never give back.
Maybe I am wired differently. I am guessing most of you reading this are. But WE do not accept living on a beach, doing nothing, as a life worth living. We give back to society, we CREATE society, we have kids, we birth the next generation. We are NOT parasites.
@BowTiedBull How does this post have 430 ensouled individuals who liked it, and more who saved it?
It doesn’t offer any benefit. Is it relatable to that many people?