Nothing will ruin a relationship for me faster than watching your partner showing up for other people in a way they don't show up for you. You have capacity, just not for our relationship? No thanks. Goes for friendship, too!
so many people still don't understand that their partner's request for change is not asking them to change who they are, but to modify the PATTERNS that are hurting the RELATIONSHIP.
You don’t need a perfect partner. You need someone who can regulate their emotions, admit when they fuck up, & actually sit with uncomfortable conversations without shutting down, flipping it on you, or throwing low blows every time shit gets real.
You should never leave a relationship because of arguments, etc….
You shouldn't get tired or drained..
Why?
if you wanna grow old with someone, you have to be willing to grow through the stages of a relationship. no two people are always perfect together. it starts off as the honeymoon phase. in that phase everything is so good and it seems as if nothing can go wrong, eventually, you will lose that you will argue over stupid things, stop communicating, and start to question whether or not that person still wants to be with you. but this is NOT when you get up and leave. read that again.
Breadcrumbing is when someone keeps showing small, inconsistent displays of interest in order to maintain attention from you when they actually have no intention of being in a relationship with you.
It is emotional manipulation!
i will pour into you, care for you, show up for you. but if you’re fine without me, i’ll learn to be fine without you too. yes my heart is big, but my ability to detach when necessary is even bigger.