semoga suamiku kelak adalah orang yg “maaf ya sayang, caranya gimana ya? ajarin dong biar aku ngerti juga”.
instead of “yaudah, kamu aja deh”.
karena bentuk cinta paling nyata adalah “mengusahakan”
One uncomfortable reality that ramai orang tak suka nak acknowledge is that society doesn't judge poor spouse selection equally between men and women.
Bila seorang perempuan tersalah pilih lelaki, society generally akan extend sympathy dekat dia. The blame goes to the husband that she chose, or kat wali yang meluluskan the marriage.
Whether we like it or not, women are often given the benefit of being viewed primarily as victims bila marriage gagal.
For men, though, expectation masyarakat jauh lebih brutal.
Siapa perempuan you pilih jadi bini, then the consequences of that choice, fundamentally, are your responsibility to face. Society tak bagi lelaki the luxury nak lari dari accountability for a decision he made himself.
Part of the reason is simple.
Dalam Islam, the power of talak ultimately rests in the hands of the man. Sebab tu men are seen as the one holding the exit door to a marriage. Kalau seorang lelaki benar-benar percaya the marriage is beyond saving, or his wife betul-betul a disaster, he has a way out yang relatively wanita tak ada dengan ease yang sama.
A woman trapped with a problematic husband selalunya kena deal dengan legal processes, family pressure, financial dependency, and the question of children in which semua tu buatkan jalan keluar jauh lebih complicated daripada sekadar "leave and move on".
But beyond all the debates about rights, responsibilities, and accountability, ada satu benda lagi besar yang ramai modern people dah lupa pasal marriage.
Marriage needs to be understood as something bigger than biology.
It's an act of ibadah.
It's effort to bring to life the Sunnah of the Prophet.
It's a shared journey towards the redha of Allah.
It's a school tempat you belajar sabar, syukur, sacrifice, leadership, and rahmah.
Once lelaki benar-benar faham benda ni, the way he sees himself as a husband and as the head of the family will change completely.
He no longer sees himself as a passenger yang rasa entitled nak complain every time the sea gets rough.
He is the captain. And every captain knows the sea was never promised to be calm.
You chose to belayar.
You yang kemudi.
And ultimately, you're the one who akan dipersoalkan where you navigate that ship.
You'll have a hard time digesting this concept kalau you're the type of guy who sees/treats women as your equal and conveniently lupa that the Prophet long ago informed us women itu kurang akal and kurang agama.
You cannot enjoy the warmth of femininity if you refuse to deal with their deficiency.
It was never about the makeup kit.
It’s about the fact that when he received something he couldn’t use, his first instinct wasn’t, “My wife would love this.”
It’s a small moment, but moments like these reveal where someone’s mind naturally goes.
Masalah global rupanya. Sigh
"Malaysia, your energy is unmatched" SHUT UP, EVERYONE! THIS IS COMING FROM GROWL'S PRODUCER.
Even though we were exhausted and dehydrated, we still gave our best for EXO 🥺🥹
I pernah baca yang manusia memang kena kerja sebab kerja tu provide purpose dan tujuan dalam hidup.
Kalau terlalu lama tak kerja, manusia akan cari & buat kerja sendiri, just to fill the void.
And the irony is, having jobs and being busy, make us more appreciative toward mundane and small things.
Bila orang cakap taknak hidup susah, ini maksudnya. Bukan nak harta banyak segunung emas pun. Cukuplah ada ihsan, sifat qawwam, bertimbang rasa dan kasih sayang. Kalau gini rupanya, mmg sedih jiwa raga.
TERKINI
ALHAMDULILLAH
WE ARE BREAKING THE SILENCE
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Lepas baca cerita ni valid juga apa dia rasa. Suami yang nak kena suruh baru nak buat ni sejenis takde sense of responsibility or urgency. Mana-mana isteri pun akan meletup. Takkan la bagi susu anak pun isteri nak kena remind? That shows you’re not fit as a father.
TERKINI
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1) Zainal Rashid Ahmad ZRA(Amanda)
2) Muhammad Muhsin(Isabella)
3) Muhammad Shazly Bin Mohd Shees(Cactus)
4) Tengku Ahmad Taufik (Cactus)
5) Patmanathan A/L Sivasamy ( Furletto)
6) Muhammad Amirul Arif Bin Mohd Azhar (Furletto)
7) Syakirin Bin Muhammad Senin (Furletto)
I love that we, as hamba, can berdoa to Allah directly. No middleman. No appointment. No fee
Bayangkan, sekecil-kecil kita ini pun boleh mengadu, meminta, berharap, pada bila-bila masa. Tanpa syarat. Tanpa alat. Hanya hati yang menghadap.
Oh I love being a muslim
and she never withdrew with her old contract from those free college shows even in the middle of her tour bc of integrity so yk she’s not doing this for the clicks. i love this woman.
Yep 😭marriage is deeper than chemistry and cute dates. That's the person who'll hold you together through grief, sickness, childbirth and every hard season life throws at you.
Marry a man who wants to make your life easy regardless of his income, don’t marry a man who romanticise or glorify poverty and struggles. Marry a man who’s generous and god fearing. Poverty brings humiliation, debt and misery. May Allah save us from poverty and grant abundance.