It's 8:30 PM on a Wednesday. Tunde just walked into the house after spending two freaking hours in traffic on Third Mainland Bridge. He is exhausted, his shirt is soaked in sweat, and he just wants to drop his bag and drink some cold water.
Kemi is in the living room, fanning herself because there is no light. She looks at Tunde, then looks at his empty hands. He forgot to buy the petrol for the generator, which he promised he would pick up on his way home.
If Kemi was just angry or frustrated, she would complain. She might say, "Tunde, ah-ah! I reminded you about this fuel this morning. Now we have to sleep in this heat, and the food in the freezer will spoil. I am really upset." That is a normal complaint. It focuses on the mistake and how it affects her.
But contempt is different. Contempt doesn't attack the mistake... it attacks the person.
Instead of complaining, Kemi hisses loudly, rolls her eyes, and looks at him with pure disgust.
"You cannot even remember to buy ordinary fuel. Is it until I write it on your forehead? I don't even know why I expect anything from you. It's like living with another child. You are completely useless when it comes to taking simple responsibility."
Tunde freezes. He knows he messed up. He doesn't feel like a partner who made a mistake... he feels like a foolish schoolboy being scolded by his headmistress. His pride is crushed. Instead of going out to find fuel, he gets defensive, hisses back, and walks into the bedroom, slamming the door.
Contempt doesn't ruin a marriage in one day.
It is a slow leak. Day by day, insult by insult, it drains away all the love, respect, and friendship until there is nothing left.
Also, Christians who seek to honour Christ don't cohabit. They don't put themselves in a place where they can be tempted. Plus, they know that premarital sex is a sin. Like, until you're married, you're not married, even if your wedding is one day away. They know that our God, who is all-wise, wants our best and would have legitimized fornication if it is required for a successful marriage.
Christians who honour Jesus give NO PLACE to the devil. Cohabiting gives PLACE to the devil.
DICTIONARY. Cohabiting:
Share living quarters; usually said of people who are not married and live together as a couple.
– Reposted. From Jan. 2024
A Nigerian woman based in Canada spoke at length about the things women commonly do — and how they often complain when men behave exactly the same way.
"This is important to clarify: I am not a fan of Fela in the shallow, romantic sense. I do not admire his excesses. I do not like the way he smoked, the recklessness of his lifestyle, or the parts of his personal choices that are often conveniently brushed aside in the name of genius. I am not even a “fan fan” of his music in the everyday sense of enjoyment. However, I am deeply drawn to his stubbornness. I am a student of his message. I respect his refusal to bend. I admire his relentless insistence on African dignity, on freedom, on calling power by its real name. What fascinates me about Fela is not how he lived comfortably, but how he lived uncomfortably by choice." — OGUNGBILE EMMANUEL OLUDOTUN
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Just on a side note
We have a serious media coverage problem in Nigeria.
If POTUS didn’t tell us about the attack, it may have been under reported or not reported at all. Let that sink in.
It just makes it more plausible that attacks of that magnitude could have been happening for years and covered up by propaganda. Which brings back the question: “If there was a genocide (and I am convinced there is), how would you know for sure?”
Only the U.S. can bomb a sovereign country on the other side of the world and call it “self-defense.”
If any other nation used the same logic: “terrorists harming our citizens abroad, so we struck inside U.S. territory,” Washington would scream “act of war” before the first press release was finished.
Exceptionalism means believing rules apply to everyone else, never to yourself.
A good time to make this spread and trend again…….
Let’s go !
Jesus just has to be who He says He is. No one gives this joy that He gives.
We celebrate our king, JESUS !
Everyone likes a winner, but nobody cares about the loser; people move on very quickly. You should do the same and recalibrate before you become a cautionary tale of the one who never overcame adversity. Comeback stories are juicy but require divine support and superhuman effort.
Got an interview coming up fast and feel underprepared or short on time?
This quick, practical formula helps you answer questions with clarity and confidence.
Use it to leave a strong, lasting impression—even under pressure.
1. Tell Me About Yourself
Formula : Present – Past – Future
- Present: "Currently, I’m leading..."
- Past: "I started my journey when..."
- Future: "I’m excited about..."
2. Why Are You Interested in This Role?
Formula : Problem – Solution – Impact
- Problem: Identify a challenge this role solves.
- Solution: Highlight your experience and how it fits.
- Impact: Show the big-picture contribution you can make.
3. What Are Your Strengths?
Formula : Story – Skill – Scale
- Story: Share a real example.
- Skill: Link your expertise to the role.
- Scale: Explain how this skill adds value over time.
4. What Is Your Weakness?
Formula : Real – Reflect – Resolve
- Real: Acknowledge an actual challenge.
- Reflect: Show self-awareness.
- Resolve: Explain the system you used to improve.
5. Tell Me About a Challenge You’ve Overcome
Formula : Challenge – Choice – Change
- Challenge: Describe the situation.
- Choice: Explain the decision-making process.
- Change: Highlight the positive transformation.
6. How Do You Handle Multiple Projects?
Formula : System – Scale – Success
- System: How you organize tasks.
- Scale: How you prioritize work.
- Success: The measurable results.
7. How Do You Motivate a Team?
Framework : Listen – Learn – Lead
- Listen: Understand team members’ needs.
- Learn: Adapt leadership styles accordingly.
- Lead: Create shared success.
8. How Do You Adapt to Change?
Formula : See – Shift – Strength
- See: Identify the opportunity in change.
- Shift: Adapt your approach.
- Strength: Build on past success.
9. How Do You Achieve Big Goals?
Formula : Start – Study – Shift
- Start: Take initiative.
- Study: Track progress and evaluate.
- Shift: Adjust based on feedback.
10. Any Questions for Us?
Formula : Ask – Solve – Launch
- Ask: About company challenges.
- Solve: Suggest possible solutions.
- Launch: Paint the vision of your contribution.
Final Tip : Structure your answers using these formula and you’ll stand out as a confident and prepared candidate!
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