The way you win the game is by realizing & embodying paradox:
> the more you let go, the more you receive
> the less you try to fix yourself, the more you heal
> the less you search for happiness, the more it becomes your natural state
(almost EVERYTHING you do - all thinking, all planning, worry, comparison, judgement etc is an impossible attempt to be happy)
> the less you need, the more you get
> the harder you try, the less likely you are to succeed
(Never force, always flow)
> the more you cling to knowledge, the more you walk in ignorance & delusion
> the more you give, the more abundance flows to you
> the more you try to control, the more out of control you feel
> the more you seek validation, the more unworthy you feel
In essence - Stop trying to control the world, others & yourself
This only creates tremendous suffering, stress & TENSION
Accept yourself, others & the world fully
When you do...you free up a TREMENDOUS amount of energy that was previously used to prop up all the seeking, controlling & resisting you were previously embroiled in
With that energy of abundance you'll naturally gravitate toward what brings you JOY & service
At this point your life has moved away from self-obsession to being fully immersed in life & the NOW
Congrats,
You won the game