Social media lately seems flooded with people complaining about dating and the challenges of finding a spouse, but there are very few accounts you come across where a person takes an approach of honesty and accountability. This is a big problem because bad thinking is being reinforced.
I was in the dating world for about 20 years, now happily married (yay!). But one thing I say often to my single friends who ask for advice: theres little mystery to any of it.
The biggest problem overall is far more self-delusion than self-reflection. Apps and Instagram have warped perception. Nobody is good enough or someone could have anyone. Frustration grows.
Here are some observations that if taken to heart, could fix a lot of the mating mess out there:
- the problem is not "dating is cooked now." You may live in the wrong place, or be looking for the wrong things, or lie to yourself about what you bring to the table. But honesty can fix anyone's strategy.
- like all things in life that are challenging, it's easier to complain about others than do the work on yourself.
- dating should be fun. Your task is to enjoy yourself while helping another person do the same. Whether it all works out or not, it should be pleasant and considerate. So many people forget this.
- guys who think a woman's appearance can cancel out all else are speeding toward a brick wall. There's no such thing as "so hot it doesn't matter she's a selfish person" by about month 3 (ok maybe 6)
- women who care whether their female friends are impressed with a guy are doomed. Even worse if they worry about what he does for their online clout. (Sidenote: This often accompanies a height fixation)
- I've never met a woman with a good attitude and a good body who lacked good options. You don't have to be a rocket scientist/super model. If you're kind and fit, your problem will be sorting through guys, not finding any that like you.
- guys: playing the field is fine, but intimacy one at a time. That means different things to different people, but overall gist is the same. Nobody should be finding someone else's underwear next to the bed.
- true character flaws only get magnified in time. If someone is rude to staff, dishonest with you or impatient with animals, it's just the beginning. Bail out early.
- expectations of perfection are ruining your chances at finding imperfect greatness in another.
So there's a first draft. Daters of the internet, I'm here to help.
What else should go on here?
One is an NYPD detective stabbed by two illegal aliens during a robbery.
The other is a foreign criminal with a long rap sheet and ties to the Trinitarios gang.
Guess which one Democrats rushed to defend and cry over on social media?
.@POTUS: "This is Iron Mike Tyson. I won't be fighting him today, but I've been his fan for a long time. We've been friends for a long time. Iron Mike — there's nobody like him."
The WNBA has no idea how to grow its business. Now a player is telling Sophie Cunningham and other white players to shut up for speaking out about men in women's sports. Instead of embracing new fans, the league seems determined to alienate them.
Abdul El Sayed can’t say whether Israel or Iran is more dangerous to the United States. Iran has killed thousands of us and chants death to America at their public events! This isn’t a hard question. Pay attention, Michigan. Vote Mike Rogers for sanity.
🚨BUSTED: Exclusive Video of Maricopa County BOS employees (toddler in tow) in highly secure Ballot Tabulation Center at 10:30pm inserting flash drives into computers (Post L&A) during an active election obtained by our source! Additional video obtained shows 3 hours of activity (Leaving at 11:15pm)
This is why we MUST vote!
Turn out in masses this election and have your voice heard.
We must be vigilant, we are watching..
These employees worked a day shift that day, leaving at 6:23pm and then returned at 9:08pm alone (with child) and remained until 11:15pm.
One of the 2 employees has been identified as Brian Ramirez, the same BOS employee who deleted files off the EMS system in 2020. (more details below)
These employees are hired and supervised by Scott Jarrett and the Maricopa BOS NOT the Maricopa County Recorders office.
*All relevant details have been reported to authorities.
NY AG debate last night was a romp. Tish James saying she doesn’t need “facts or law” when making prosecution decisions ought to chill all of us to the bone.
Got to hand it to Bill Maher. We may not agree on everything but thank God he is calling out the insanity. That takes moral courage & principles. And deserves respect.
🚨 WOW! Dept. of Labor IG Anthony D'Esposito just DROPPED this fire line on all universities abusing visas to replace Americans
"I WILL PERSONALLY CUFF YOU IN THE UNIVERSITY SQUARE."
"I spent a career as a NYPD detective...I did not back down then, and I sure as hell will not back down now. I don't care how prestigious a university thinks it is!"
"I don't care how large your endowment is, how powerful your alumni are, or how many politicians you have on speed dial."
🔥🔥🔥
A most wanted fraudster list is also being launched by DOL. THEY WILL BE ARRESTED
Schools under investigation include Pitt, Yale, Harvard, Stanford, Brown, UC Davis, Caltech, Arizona State, and MIT
Subpoenas already served on 9 schools. He's not bluffing.
THIS is the energy we needed for YEARS.
Americans are NO LONGER BEING FORGOTTEN
NBC News runs cover for Talarico’s 12 day hiatus.
No one outside of Washington DC thinks you disappear for 12 days because you have the flu.
Start doing journalism.
"We weren’t aware the child was in the car I can tell you that. But do you know who was? Oscar. Oscar knew he had a child in his car. Oscar chose to accelerate at a high rate of speed and ram two different vehicles as it appears he was going towards officers. And so the public outcry should also be towards this criminal, this thug, this gangbanger, this possible murderer, the outrage should be with him for endangering the five year old.” @SecMullinDHS
We’re not playing this game
Nidal Hasan walked up to a pregnant woman curled up on the ground begging for her baby’s life and shot her
He is getting exactly what he deserved a long time ago
This is Sam.
Sam was arrested for viciously beating his wife, Marcia.
Sam promised Marcia he would to return to murder her once he got out.
The St. Louis Bail Project paid his bail.
Sam beat Marcia to death 45 minutes later.