i actually think "surface level" friendships are very healthy. not everyone in your life has to be your ride or die. some friends are for the gym. some are for going out. some are just for complaining about work or bureaucracy. when you stop expecting everyone to be your everything, the disappointment disappears. those deep convos and connections are for the 2-3 people closest to you
i want to marry into a family that actually feels like home. sunday dinners, birthday celebrations, holiday traditions, spontaneous movie nights, laughter around the table, games that get way too competitive, warm hugs at the door, and group chats that never stop lighting up.
You’ll never truly understand marriages, divorces, anxieties, childbirth, the death of a loved one, parenting, and other things until they actually happen to you. Theories and assumptions about situations in life are not realities. You think you are smarter than most until life humbles you when it’s your turn.
I hope I end up with a man who loves me like I actually matter to him in his everyday life. Someone who wouldn’t be comfortable with the idea of hurting me, not even in small ways. Someone who puts effort in without it feeling forced, just because he cares.
A man who wants to see me happy and doesn’t treat that like an option. Who looks at me with that kind of quiet admiration that doesn’t need to be announced. Who makes me feel chosen, not compared.
And who doesn’t make me question where I stand, because his focus is already there. With me.
one of the main reasons i’m so gentle with myself is cause i believe i’ve already experienced enough hardship in my life. i’ve already been mishandled and undervalued by others and myself at times. so i deserve more patience, forgiveness, and consideration at this point.
If I cut you off, your success later won’t make me regret it. Good for you, truly. But becoming rich, popular, married, fit, or “blessed” does not rewrite how you treated people when your character was on trial. I can respect your growth from a distance and still remember why access was revoked. Success can change your status, but it doesn’t automatically clean your history.
i truly wanna be a WIFE BUT i wanna be a genuinely happy wife. A submissive wife. A loving wife. A peaceful wife. A secure wife. A comfortable and safe wife to a honorable, ambitious, hardworking, LOYAL, loving, romantic, funny, spontaneous God fearing husband
Everything has hikmah behind it. Sometimes the things that break us, delay us, or confuse us are actually part of Allah’s protection, guidance, or preparation for something better. We may not understand it now, but Allah sees the full picture while we only see a small part of it. That’s why we trust Him — because even painful things can carry hidden mercy.
I want the kind of money that lets me show up for my people. Even if I can't fix everything, i want to at least soften the moment. To send food. To send transport fare. To send ice-cream money on a hard day.
I'm tired of only saying "sorry."