Your anxiety wants guarantees. Life doesn’t give guarantees. The skill is learning to say, “I don’t know what will happen, but I’ll handle it.” That sentence can change the way you see everything.
In Saudi Arabia, African students are heavily restricted from studying corporate leadership, medicine, high-tech engineering, and strategic technology. Yet they have full access to Islamic law and hardcore Wahhabism. I'm just wondering why.
The quickest way to “get your spark back” is to literally light yourself on fire. You’ve got to burn baby. You’re depressed bc you’re not being insane enough. Double. Down. The world does not reward half ass. All in or out. You’re thinking too small. You’ve accepted your current reality as the only reality. Bullshit. You need to write a list of the most insane asks you could ever dream of. “I am a NYT best selling author. I am the founder of a Fortune 500 company. I paint for a living and I make a damn good living.” Ask and you shall receive. Embody and you become. Flip the fucking script. Your current ceiling is now the floor. Level up.
You need to burn.
Physical touch = Too horny
Acts of service = I’m not your mom
Receiving gifts = Feminine
Quality time = ✅ doesn’t require effort
Word of affirmation = why you need to hear that
You assume people will act fairly if you act fairly. They won’t. People act in alignment with their incentives, not your expectations. If the structure rewards selfishness, selfishness appears.
This is free advice from an expensive psychologist.
If you're an anxious person, do everything for fun. Go to a job interview for fun. Submit documents for fun. Start a blog for fun. Anxiety feeds on importance. Don't make everything a matter of life and death.
Gustavo Fring was right, if you have a problem that means it can be solved. If it cannot be solved then it is not a problem. It is a reality to be accepted.