The biggest skill you can develop is the ability to reset fast.
Bad conversation? Move on.
Bad day? Start fresh tomorrow.
Missed workout? Hit it the next day.
Poor decision? Learn and adjust.
You can't control what happens to you, but you control how long you let it affect you.
Actually, in order to become a better person, you must first realize how horrible you really are. not in the dramatic sense, but in the quiet ways you sabotage yourself, repeat unhealthy patterns, hurt people who care about you, or tolerate what wounds you. you cannot grow if you keep pretending you're innocent in the story you created.
Someone said “The slow burn of becoming yourself” and I think that might be one of the most beautiful things I have ever heard. It’s such a good reminder of how much it takes, how much character development, how much change, and beauty and courage it takes to reach your soul and I hope no one ever gives up on becoming themselves because it’s a never ending journey that only gets better.
It's extremely important to realise that you were beautiful before someone noticed and you'll remain beautiful in their absence.
Your beauty is not subjected to who values you for it.
my life changed the moment an old mentor told me this:
“stopping your worst habit would change your life way faster than starting your best habit…
fix the leak before filling the bucket.”
Every single thing you want in life is on the other side of something that sucks. That suck might be 100 workouts, 100 bland meals, 100 hours of work, or 100 hard conversations. Embrace it as the cost of entry. The answers you seek are found in the actions you avoid.
forever grateful that at my lowest point i chose to become disgustingly educated, build myself back up and go after everything i’ve ever dreamed of. i refused to let misery consume me, chose fulfillment instead, and i’ll always be grateful to myself for being so good to me
Right now, your only priority is getting your life back on track and becoming the best version of yourself. Don't stress about who stays or who leaves. This season is about finally doing what's best for you.
Major cheat code for life: Learn to delay your reaction. Anger, fear, and impulse will try to make you move fast. There's power in pausing. In the pause, you see clearly, you respond wisely, and you avoid decisions you’ll regret. Slow down to speed up.
The love you receive from someone who knows how to be alone is the most sincere there is.
A solitary soul loves you by choice, not out of a need for company.
My favorite quote from Atomic Habits by James Clear:
"It doesn't make sense to continue wanting something if you're not willing to do what it takes to get it.
If you don't want to live the lifestyle, then release yourself from the desire.
To crave the result but not the process is to guarantee disappointment."
please take the risk. worst case scenario: you learn. best case scenario: it changes your whole fucking life. and you very well know, you need that change.
Adulting has humbled me a lot . I finally understand why so many adults stop posting on social media or even deactivate their accounts. Life feels so much peaceful when everything isn't on display. Like they say , out of sight, out of mind.. There's something really comforting about people not knowing every detail of your life.
- refusing to ask for help
- downplaying your achievements
- isolating yourself instead of communicating
- saying “yes” to everything
- neglecting your own needs
- avoiding important responsibilities
- flooding your mind with negativity
- always chasing perfection