The three biggest things holding you back:
1. Ego
You don’t want to look stupid. You don’t want to get rejected. You don’t want to start as a beginner. So you protect your image instead of improving your results.
The first idea that changes everything:
“You have power over your mind — not outside events. Realize this, and you will find strength.”
You don’t control what happens.
You control how you respond to it.
That sounds simple.
But actually living by it changes everything
After 37 years of age as a man, I’ve finally come to realize that the only cure to depression is just leaving the house at every single possible opportunity no matter how badly you don’t want to.
Here is why...
Life becomes 100x more enjoyable when you start playing it like a video game. You have free will. You can literally do anything you want. Go anywhere. Build anything. Become anyone. The only rules that are stopping you are the ones you inherited from people who also felt stuck. Drop them. Step into the game with wild self belief and borderline greedy ambition. Dream so big it feels irresponsible. The life you always wanted is not out of reach. You just finally have to decide to go collect it
I’m a retired brain surgeon and I wanna tell you why you feel like life is passing by. I just need one minute to explain this to you so hang in there.
Repetitive daily routines stop the brain from recording clear detailed memories. When every day looks the same, your brain does not track time the same as a clock does. It tracks change. If nothing new happens then days, months, and years start to blur together.
This is know as Time compression. When life lacks variety, your brain compresses past days together, making it feel like time is sped up.
To stop feeling like life is passing you by, add new experiences to your life. Break routine habits, like changing your daily home routine, taking a different route to work, or trying a new hobby.
Schedule small trips or plan new adventures so your days do not blend together.
Practice mindfulness by staying fully focused on what you are doing right now and not trying to race off to the next task.
Keep a journal and write down happy memories or memorable parts of the day before you go to sleep.
Take deep, calm breaths when you feel anxious or rushed to return your focus to the moment.
You can and you will retrain your brain to not feel like life is passing you by by following these few simple measures.