You know what’s funny about relationship discourse?
After a certain age, people will revert to the advice their parents and grandparents gave them on marriage and relationships 😂
This is the same advice they opposed throughout their 20s and 30s—life has a funny way of playing out.
1. Women are often more misogynistic than men. Nobody places women on a lower pedestal quite like women themselves. For example, isn't it funny that when a woman wants to insult a man, she'll say, "You're behaving like a woman"?
2. Women sexualize themselves more than they accuse men of sexualizing them. Social media is perhaps the clearest example of this. Many women willingly post highly suggestive photos and videos, place a strong emphasis on their bum bum and boobs, and often compete for attention using sex appeal.
3. The primary reason many women go into relationships and marriages is for a man's provision. For them, it's often about security and survival before anything else. We've all heard women say, "If I can do all this for myself, why do I need a man?" The wealthier a woman becomes, the more likely she is to feel she doesn't need a man.
The main thing many men bring to a relationship is provision, which is why some women begin to resent their partners when they can no longer meet their financial or provider responsibilities.
4. A woman will do everything to make you less masculine and then end up hating you for it because she will eventually see you as weak.
"I love a man who shows his emotions. It's okay to cry."
"I love a man who lets me into the challenges he's going through. I want to hear him complain. I will always be there for him."
Women often say they want emotional vulnerability from men, yet many are less attracted to men who display certain forms of vulnerability.
Do not be deceived. The day you lose your masculinity before a woman is the day she may begin to resent you and make you pay for it.
5. The worst set of superiors to work under are often women. In fact, I can bet that many women today would rather work under a male boss. Woman-to-woman relationships rarely last because they tend to see through each other's deceit and shenanigans.
There are many women today who would rather have male friends than keep other women as close friends.
6. You can do everything for a woman, but the day you wrong her, or the moment the relationship goes south, she suddenly forgets every good thing you ever did. All she remembers is what she did for you, what you didn't do for her, and every mistake you made along the way.
7. In dating, many women still expect traditional treatment while preferring modern relationship dynamics in other areas. A man should open the car door for his woman, provide for her, and never suggest a 50/50 arrangement. He should kneel down to propose. Yet, the moment you mention that a woman should cook or wash clothes for her man, it becomes a third world war.
Many women expect men to uphold traditional standards while embracing modern feminist values for themselves. Even in relationships, a man is expected to provide, love, care for, pamper, and be intentional about his woman, while the woman remains his equal and may refuse to take on traditional responsibilities such as cooking for him.
A man is expected to demonstrate his intentionality from the very first day he meets a woman, but a woman is often told to wait until she is properly wifed before she starts performing "wifey" duties.
8. Everything women love and admire romantically is usually something they envision being done for them.
"I'm so big on gifts and surprises."
Meanwhile, it's all about receiving them, not giving them. 😂😂😂
9. A woman can never effectively raise a boy child.
10. Women expect men to read signals and hints, then get frustrated when those hints are missed.
One of the reasons many women don't shoot their shot at men isn't necessarily because of a fear of rejection, as they often make us believe. It's because they know that once they make the first move, they lose the bargaining power.
You can't shoot your shot at a man and then, two weeks later, start billing him or suddenly remember that you haven't eaten all day. 😂
One of the darkest things a person with unhealed trauma will do is actively sabotage a peaceful relationship just to feel a sense of control.
When you grow up in chaotic environments, peace feels like a trap. You are constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop, and the suspense becomes agonizing. To relieve that anxiety, you will subconsciously pick a fight, create a massive issue out of thin air, or push your partner away. You blow up the relationship yourself because navigating a disaster you created feels much safer and more familiar than navigating a peace you don't know how to trust.
The worst feeling for a man is when he tries to have a conversation with a woman about behavior that hurts him every day, but instead of listening, she gets angry and turns the situation around on him. 😠
The older you get, the more you realize that closure doesn’t always come from a conversation.
Sometimes it comes from accepting what their actions have already told you.