Barbie Beaton

I'm a study of inherited family trauma. Memoirist | Francophile. I write about: #Memoir #CNF #PTSD #Scapegoating

[Barbie Beaton @frenchbarbe]

My memoir is about being the least favorite child. Falling between the cracks was one thing, but it was another thing entirely to perceive a family conspiracy against me. #Memoir #Scapegoat #GenX

[Carmel Breathnach @AuthorCarmelB]

Who else is writing memoir out there? Or has written a memoir? What is it about? Would love to connect. #WritingCommunity #memoir #writersupportingwriters

[Barbie Beaton @frenchbarbe]

Friendly reminder that it’s OK to feel sad and tired before Mother’s Day. Lonely children often have double-duty: to provide themselves with the maternal love and attention they were denied, and to grieve that absence. 💐

[Barbie Beaton @frenchbarbe]

@LaMarchinaMC Wow. Yep. This is spot-on. Social media makes a popularity contest amongst creatives, which I find phony and cringey. I also envy the game they play because it feels so much easier than pushing myself to be a better writer and reader and thinker.

[Barbie Beaton @frenchbarbe]

It still surprises when I learn some aspect of my dysfunctional childhood wasn’t the norm for everyone. Kids wrote thank you notes, really?? Not in my family. We kids were raised in hostility and rudeness.

[Barbie Beaton @frenchbarbe]

@TashaLivings @FinePrintLit @AriannaSidd Amazing!! 🤩 Congratulations!!!

[Barbie Beaton @frenchbarbe]

@MerriamWebster

[Barbie Beaton @frenchbarbe]

@MamaMichaelax The struggle is real. I’ve so been there. Not a solution but Vitamin D can help soften the winter blues.

[Lee Hall @lhallwriter]

Using a GIF describe your week below:

[lets heal and recover @recovery_your]

Retweet if you have ever felt.
-guilty for having mental illness.
-ashamed of having a mental illness.
-like a burden for having a mental illness
Or if you ever felt like you just can’t talk about it, because you,ll be judged or misunderstood.
I understand.

[Barbie Beaton @frenchbarbe]

It's with much gratitude and honor that I've been accepted for a November 2025 residency in Auvillar, France. While there, I plan to finish my manuscript about my role as the family scapegoat and why it taught me we are only as happy as our unresolved wounds.
📷: Sophie Beaton

[Barbie Beaton @frenchbarbe]

@Sadie_NC I live in Montana where it’s so dry the towels naturally dry in an hour. Some areas, towels never dry. I guess laundering towels is a regional thing.

[Barbie Beaton @frenchbarbe]

@recovery_your Family scapegoat, here. I get how severe childhood trauma is. Everyone deserves to heal. You deserve it. Your loved ones deserve it. Healing is an essential health matter.

[Barbie Beaton @frenchbarbe]

@HiddenBrain The best: Hand-knit mittens by my mother. She is also one source of my trauma, so it ‘warms me’ to think of her knitting those mittens and thinking of me. 🎁 Healing was the best gift I’ve given to myself.

[Barbie Beaton @frenchbarbe]

@shadows_control 🚩Holding you responsible for every bad thing that happens to them.
🚩Turning the tables should you air a grievance.
🚩Having a phony public personality.

[Barbie Beaton @frenchbarbe]

@AMS_Perkins Mom’s mental health is central to family cohesion. Hang in there. Babies can’t control their needs. Kids are resilient as long as their physical and emotional needs are being met. Marriage needs a consistent date night. It’s tough. I get it!!

[Barbie Beaton @frenchbarbe]

@HorowitzLana Oh do I get this!

[Barbie Beaton @frenchbarbe]

How do you deal with bullies?
A central question in my memoir, but instead of a workplace coup, it was my family.
🚩Study emotional intelligence.🧠
🚩Break the pattern. Bad behavior signals rejection/abandonment/trust issues.
🚩Speak with boundaries intact. "This is not OK."

[Workplace Mental Health Resources @Stopworkplacebu]

Question to all of you!

How do I not internalize the bullying when it’s the whole office that does it?! It’s a really small office and they all gang up on me. I have ptsd from being bullied as a kid. I just feel like maybe they are right and I don’t deserve respect or something.

[Barbie Beaton @frenchbarbe]

@HorowitzLana My husband has been out of town all week. Did this for five nights and now it’s Saturday and I want to go to Target for candles. Such a rockstar life I got going on.

[Barbie Beaton @frenchbarbe]

@HorowitzLana Yes, I love decorating for Christmas, burning Frasier Fir candles, and putting fairy lights in pine garlands. It brings so much comfort and warmth to the house!!

[Barbie Beaton @frenchbarbe]

@jocelynjanecox Oops! 😬

[Barbie Beaton @frenchbarbe]

@jocelynjanecox You look amazing out there!! So much fun to be on the ice!!